when i c a woman pregnant,i feel like..?

Question

i feel like women r weak,and ask myself ' why did she let a man **** her' ,.. how can i change my mind? why do women born,y not the men? can someone tell me some positiv things about borning a baby.
the mother hav to scream ,and hurt herself to giv the man a child?is that fair.
and how can giv a girl milk to a baby,is that disgusting,or normal
being pregnant is like a nightmare for me,its a fobby. u cannot do sport,and u always hav to b carefully to that child, and WAT when ur husband leave u,cheat u* wat will u do when u become a single mother.. isnt that terrible..
all our mothers were ****** by our fathers?

ok.. calm dowm ..im not a moster i only asked.

Answer 1

I know you have issues, did your father leave you mother or something. You don't trust any man do you.
I believe you are a virgin and you boyfriend is coming to see you soon.
Is all this because you are worried that when you have s e x with this man you will get pregnant, I know you are muslim and have to marry first, but it sounds like you want to do it soon.
Having a baby why???
When you meet someone that you truly love you usually want to have a baby, this is a joint decision, when you give birth yes it hurts but it's really not that bad and when it's over there is nothing better than holding your tiny precious baby in your arms and looking at every tiny little finger and little toe, gently stroking every inch of there body and kissing them on the head. It is absolutley amazing that you have been carrying this baby for nine months and you are finally holding him/her.
I hope that one day you open up your heart to someone and dedide to have a baby, you will then know what it feels like, you feel like the greatest person alive knowing that you are a mummy.
I know your fella has already got a daughter but this doesn't mean that he will leave you too, trust someone or you be on your own forever.

I am sorry for all the grief people have given you, but if they had took the time to read your other questions and answers they would realize that you are 22, highly intelligent and that English is not your first language!
Good luck with your man and I hope you will be very happy together and don't let other peoples experiences dictate your life or you will never be truly happy!
Luv Vanessa x

Answer 2

sounds way more hideous than it is. Some women Don't "let a man" do that, they're taken advantage of; but some want it more than guys!women are born with the equipment to have a child, they aren't weak for having sex & letting nature do what it does best. If men had babies, there wouldn't be more than five kids on the planet! : ) When you're pregnant, everybody is concerned about and excited for you and they do nice things because they know once the baby's born, you'll never sleep again (hah). You can have a baby without much pain at all, just ask. I bet if you asked your doctor, they could set up a visit to the baby ward of a hospital, (or you could do volunteer work there) & you'd see it's not so gross & disgusting. Being a good parent's kind of like taking care of a pet that can talk and do junk for you later on in life. (& you Can do some sports) Not all guys cheat, but if you end up alone, there are usually helpful places to make sure you guys are ok. and just think, you might be raising someone who turns out to be GREAT! plus: you wouldn't be here if it weren't for your mom and dad, no matter how they've been to you, you get the opportunity to make your life Fabulous. Having a child can enrich your life so much. going to the bathroom, now THAT'S disgusting! : )

Answer 3

No matter what you feel like now, if you had a child you will feel different. Sex is not just about getting pregnant, it is enjoyable. We "let" men do it to us because we have sex drives and we want it and sometimes we want a child. Woman are not weak. It is only us who can handle birth. I didn't think I wanted children and the idea of birth scared the crap out of me...but hey, I was 28 and white hair started coming in and suddenly I wanted a child INTENSELY. I didn't give a baby to a man. I gave a baby to me. When I heard my son cry the first time I died. A new me was instantly born. I'm really a different person. I love my son more then anything else. I didn't expect for my ideas on Everything to change. I was scared I'd miss the bars and partying and staying up late. I worried that I wouldn't want to change diapers constantly and deal with being careful about everything. I worried that the mess would drive me insane since I tended to be a little OCD on the cleaning. None of that mattered when he came into the world. I was wierded out at first at nursing. I felt like my breasts were sexual objects. It's been 9 months and I tell you that I honestly love breastfeeding, I am sad that in 3 months it will be over. Breasts are for babies. As for husbands or you cheating.... having a child is seperate from that. I will never regret it. If you plan your life for the worst and only do things that are safe you will have a boring empty life.

Answer 4

Well its not to say women are weak , but that when a child is conceived out of love it can be a beautiful thing. As for a man leaving that is not right and i know it happens time and time again, but if you look at the other side of the coin some woman have not been so nice and leave the mate they are with too leaving the father with the child to persue whatever she is wanting to do,,,,, like men do . how cruel is that. Giving milk to a baby is normal if your a wet nurse or a family friend who's friend has also had a child and can't produce milk, it could save the childs life. IF your not sure on that then go to goats milk for the child who needs milk there is lots out there for the child.
When it comes to sports if your an active person to begin with you should be able to keep up with your sports just not as hard. You and your baby will both stay healthy and remember to keep up with the checkups .

Answer 5

Geez little one If by looking at a pregnant women you think they are weak you have it all wrong.. You are looking at one hell of a strong women who has the most amazing thing growing inside of her.
And as for a man *** her.. well little one obviously you have never enjoyed the passion between a man and a women.. It is an amazing feeling and emotion.

With an attitude like that I would be seeking medical advise not advise from strangers on the computer.

As for child birth.. not all women scream or go through a lot of pain.. some women are more physically able to bare children then others.... why? well that is something that no one can probably answer.

Breast feeding a child be it boy or girl is the most natural thing to do.. it is not sexual so therefore it is not disgusting to breast feed your female child..

As for your husband cheating on you or leaving you... you would might be surprised to know that some men are even MORE turned on by a pregnant women. This leading to more great sex even during your pregnancy.

It doesn't matter if you raise your child alone or with its father.. as long as the child is brought up surrounded by love and feels loved. That is what really matters... THE CHILD..

And as for your mother.. I am sure she enjoyed the great F u ck from your dad.. Without that... you wouldn't be here...

Now go seek guidance for you mental issues!!

Answer 6

I don't know entirely what you're getting at, but here's my response to what I could figure out...

I absolutely LOVED being pregnant. It is an incredible experience. I did not scream at all during the birthing process and it didn't hurt much at all after I got an epidural. All of it was well worth it and I can't wait to have another child.

Breastfeeding is not disgusting. It's perfectly natural. What do you think women did before formula? And you might change your mind on it once you become pregnant.

Being a mother has been a wonderful experience for me and I have no fear of my husband leaving me or cheating on me. It's a topic the two of us have discussed many times and it will not happen. We have very good communication and that is a key part of a healthy relationship.

And in reference to your last question...my parents are still together. My husband's parents are still together. Most of our relatives are also still with their first spouse. Granted, I know quite a few divorced people, too, but you make the best of your situation.

Answer 7

You have issues, major issues. We dont have babies for men, we have them because we decide to, not because we are forced to. Having a baby doesnt have to be painful thats why they have medicine. I havent figured out why some women still go natural, but thats their deal not mine. Breastfeeding a baby isnt disgusting, only if you think about it in a way that doesnt have to do with providing your child food. Raising a child is a joy not a punishment until they get to be teeangers then thats a different story. Being a single mother is easy, not all men cheat on their wives or girlfriends and leave them. Sometimes (in my case) the mother decides the baby is better off without a father..at least that one. I guess this is all something you have to learn when you mature.

Answer 8

I feel really sad that you feel this way about the most natural thing in the world. OK child birth does hurt but its temporary, the love you have for that child lasts for ever, believe me you soon forget and wouldn't change it for the world. If it wasn't normal for a mothers milk to feed the child we wouldn't produce it, its a wonderful bonding experience and i was proud to give my children the best start possible in life. People make love to purposely conceive a child because they love each other. it is an amazing real life miracle that happens every second of every day
and should be celebrated. Children are precious whether they are born to a couple or a single parent.

Answer 9

If we didnt have children, the world would be no more. And childbirth is a beautiful thing. It is not as bad as people say. I know... I had a baby. I didnt scream at all. Once you get the epidural, you are ok. And breastfeeding is beautiful too. You are giving your baby something they need to survive. And being pregnant is a wonderful feeling too. And you only get screwed over by the man who got you pregnant if you dont choose who you sleep with wisely. And even if something happens that you do become a single mother... oh well. As long as you love your children it is okay.

Answer 10

I think you need therapy for one thing. And I don't mean that in a cruel way.
Having a child is not a weak thing. In fact, women handle pain better than men do. Men could never deal with that kind of pain. Women's bodies were made to handle that kind of stress. Plus, a man will never be able to experience feeling a growing child inside. It is a truly indescribable feeling. Not all women have to give up sports, I mean you can't go skydiving and crap, but you can still exercise, in fact its better for you. You just need to tone it down a tad so as not to hurt the fetus.
A woman does not need a man to keep her on track or to take care of her. It is a wonderfull thing if the father stays, helps, and wants to be a parent. My mother did fine with me and my brother, no it wasn't easy, but I don't think we have any severe damage from it. If he cheats on you, he's a scumbag that doesn't deserve you and has no idea what he has.
Giving birth is such a short thing compared to the next 18 years of caring for a child. But in the end you have something you created, and you never know what that child is going to be capable of, as long as you gave him/her the tools to survive in this world.