I made a friend during my 1st year of 6th form, she was in the year above, and has now left school for good. During that time I started feeling empty, and wanted to be in her company alot, and missed her; I told myself the reason for this was cus she was leaving school, and I thought that once I got used to it, things would be normal again, but its not. I still hang out with her, but the moment I'm alone I miss her really bad. My feelings aren't sexual, literally friendship based, but what I can't figure out, is why I feel that she is more special than any other of my mates. These feelings are strong, and get me really down. I know there will be other people who have experienced something similar, but can anybody give me their views on the situation, I've spoken to her about how I felt, she didn't have much to say, but reasured me that I could ring or email her whenever I felt this way. thing is ive stopped doing that, because I don't want to cramp her life with my worries....Help?
2006-08-11 07:08:11 · 5 answers · asked by taurean_lady06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There are some people that you really get along well with, and if they disappear, it leaves behind... well, like you said, an empty feeling. There are... well, different types of friends. Some you get along with kinda well, some you get along with well, and then you have that one friend who you get along practically perfect with. Those friends leave an impact on you.
I understand why you wouldn't want to cramp her with worries... how about this: instead of only contacting her when you have worries and feeling down, try contacting her when you feel good, and share the good things that happen in your life? Also, allow her to do the same, share the good and bad. That way, you won't feel so guilty about sharing your worries, and you'll be able to help her out also.
It's not a strange feeling, you certainly aren't alone, don't worry about that. You'll be okay. ^_^
2006-08-11 07:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make new friends and you will not feel so lonesome. And remember, next year you will be in her school too and you two can hang out again..
2006-08-11 14:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she's really special to you.maybe she has touched your life in a way that nooneelse has and you want to depend on her presence or company.well it isnt wrong but i think you should try to detach a little cos this friend of yours is human and is capable of lettin you down and if she does, with this attatchment,you will be disturbed for life or for long.i advice you get other friends,get used to other people and workit out.don't keep feeling its only HER.
2006-08-11 14:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing is happening. i made a ton of friends who are leaving school because they are a year older. all my friends and i talk about how next year will suck without them, and so on. you are just remembering how much fun times you had with her, and how that wont happen next year, because she wont be there.
2006-08-11 14:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by lalalala13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go that way... it'll just make you cry later.
I had such experiences and trust me I am paying for that with my tears. today she' cares for your feelings but she won't remain same always, as she doesn't feel the same for you herself, your love for her only makes her concerned for you.
2006-08-11 14:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by Pri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋