I'm 3 weeks pregnant and haven't talked to the guy I'm pregnant by in 2 weeks what does that mean?

Question

We were together for almost a month and talked about having a baby constantly, now that I'm pregnant I don't think he want's a baby. I think maybe he's trying to run away from what he helped create. Or either he's just going through some things. His Grandma died, and he's in the process of moving. Maybe he's just really occupied.

Answer 1

well may it is a little bit of everything, the baby, grandmother and the moving. just call him and try to communicate more. you both where talking before the baby issue came up, keep on talking, not just about the baby but like you was at first. that is how you became friends any way.

Answer 2

You were together for a month and you wanted a baby? Why? Have you ever had a baby before? do you know anyone who has had a baby with someone only after a month of going out and ON PURPOUSE? well, the damage is done, can't look back now, I guess... He is not there for you now, he will not be there for you after... Maybe he just used that to get you into bed and now that it has happened he has moved on. His grandma may have passed away, but nothing will change that. That is now the past, a child is the present and future. Have you told him yet that you are pregnat? if you did and he still doesn't realize this is the ONLY priority, then you need to move on and realize is gonna be just you andyour child. I am sorry

Answer 3

Thats why the bible says have sex after marriage. then ur husband can support you with unexpected events like having a baby and so forth.. Now, u are on ur own. It is very hard to raise a child as a single mother. I see lot of single mothers who are struggling with life. Often times, they spend time in court to fight for money and etc. Thats why its good not to have sex before marriage. I am not saying that u are wrong or right .. U have every right to have pleasures as everyone has or needs. Again, I say that you will have to let him know or go to a planned parenthood to get help .. its not fun to do this ALONE.. If he runs away from you, then its a big mistake. UNLESS u want a baby on ur own WILL, then there's nothing more u can say. HE gave you his sperm for you to have a baby because you want one. So being together for a month is not enough time to secure a promising relationship for the future. Its fun if ur boyfriend or fiance or husband is with you while u are preganat . It is so much fun and enjoyable to have a new baby come to this world together as Proud parents. Having a child is very expensive. Think about day care, diapers and etc and etc . lot of work and time.
As for now, He seems going through lot of things but do what you think is the best.

Answer 4

Oh, PLEASE tell me you didn't just say you dated this guy for only ONE MONTH and got yourself pregnant!!!!

And when you said you guys "talked" about having a baby, did you say, "I want to have a baby with you next week," or did you say, "I think maybe someday I'd like to have some kids," because one does NOT equal the other!

Oh, and have you TOLD the guy you're pregnant??? He can't read your mind, you know! Chances are, with only a month's history, he may be getting ice cubes on his toes - and frankly I wouldn't blame him.

However, now that the deed is done, he better suck it up and figure out what you two are going to do. You both thought you were mature enough to handle this when you were screwing around, it's too late now to change your minds!

In a word: STUPID.

Answer 5

NO honey he should be calling you at least every day. To check on you because this is serious. Pregnancy is a very deliquet thing and shouldn't be taken lightly. If you don't hear from him it will hurt but just to leave you in the cold like he has stings and should make you a stronger woman and better yourself for you and your little one. YOU DONT NEED HIM. he will have to live with that for the rest of his life. Take care of yourself at this point you have no choice. God gave you this baby. Some people cant even have children and you have been blessed

Answer 6

You were together for "almost a month"? Waow....are u sure the guy even likes u?

Ok, give him some time in case he is really occupied. But u did say u dont think he wants a baby. Have u thot about what u would do either way?

Pls, do think about it and i wish u the very best.

Answer 7

You were together for "almost a month"? You don't really know each other at all, do you?

It doesn't help to try to figure out what he is thinking. You need to talk to him and ask him what he's feeling and thinking. Yes, he could be feeling overwhelmed and upset right now, but that doesn't say anything about your future. You need to sit down and talk and make some plans.

Answer 8

Ok... no disrespect, but even having the desire to have a child with someone you've been with for a month is not the brightest idea. I don't know how old you guys are, but to me it sounds like he is not ready. Being that you are pregnant, and you're going thru a lot with hormones, etc... it is kind of selfish that he can't take a minute out of his life to call and check on you, regardless to what is going on in his life. Unfortunately, it just sounds like a bad situation all around and you may need to come to terms with the possibility of raising this child on your own.

Answer 9

You were only with this guy for 1 month and you talked about having a baby all the time?!?!

Sorry, but that's a little weird. Anyways, you need to decide what you are going to do about the baby and you need to tell him that you're pregnant.

Answer 10

Dont give him time at all, contact some of his family and ask where he is. If anything, he needs to pay for the child with support through the appropriate agency.
We can't afford to have another DEADBEAT dad in our society.

You make sure you go get some support. He has just as much responsiblity for child as you do, DO NOT take all the responsibility or feel that you should, ok.