2006-08-11 06:47:06 · 27 answers · asked by hoopz190 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Go for it. I had my first baby at 19. I am now married with two kids and love being a young mom. Get married if you want, but you really dont have to. As long as your financially and emotionally ready to give your lives over to caring for a child then hop onboard the baby bus. Good luck to you.
2006-08-11 06:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by neabean18 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you two live together? If you live together and things are good they hey more power to you. but if you don't i suggest you try it out before you put a baby in the picture
If you weren't able to work cause you are pregnant would you still be financially stable? Make sure you will have the means to stay at home at least a month after the baby is born to recover.
How long have you been together? I suggest you be together for 1 1/2 yrs before having a planned baby,(at least live together for a year) that way if anything can go wrong it will within that time. just so you know he is right for you
Good luck on all your decisions
2006-08-11 13:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? I was 35 and had been married for 8 years when I had my first child. We owned our home and lived very comfortably. We had traveled far and wide, we were both well educated, and earned well. We knew how much hard work and patience kids need. And, you know what, sometimes we look at each other and say "What were we thinking?"
We love our kids, but it is really, really hard. You don't even have a husband and you're talking about having a child? You are not even mature enough to realize you need to live longer before you commit to giving up (and yes that is exactly what I mean) your life for a child (because you need to if you want to be a good parent). What do you think is so great about having a child. children are wonderful, but only when you are truly ready. Just remember, a baby is the MOST selfish person on earth. Are you ready to be totally selfless? How about this "boyfriend?"
My first child had colic and cried for 13 hours straight one day? She did this for 2 months. Would your boyfriend give up "fun" stuff to carry a screaming baby around in his arms while he tries to make her feel better, day after day, for months on end? Do you even know the answer to that?
2006-08-11 14:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by J T 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was 17 when I got preg with my first baby...I would suggest getting a college degree, getting married and having a house first. It makes things a little easier. I'm 22 and pregnant with my second and I'm done with all of those things now..it's easier and you're more ready for it.
I mean ultimatly its your decision and it can be done but if there are things you want to do in your life first I suggest you do them and wait a couple years..hell even one year can make all the difference. But whatever you decide how you are truly happy with your decision. Just remember having a baby is a BIG thing so just make sure you take the time to consider. Good luck!
2006-08-11 18:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by ktpb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parenthood is a blessing, but so is your 20's. I did so many things like bar hopping, vacations, adventures that I could never have taken a baby with me. In my opinion, get married but hold off a while on a baby. And a child will be there the rest of your life. You'll never have the freedom like you do now. But, then again, everyone needs to do what's right for them, and only you know what's right for you at this point in your life.
2006-08-11 13:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How financially stable can you possibly be at that age? Honestly, you're both really young, and you can't in good conscience bring a child into a relationship that isn't solid. You're not even married.
Wait. Give your relationship time, get married, then have a baby. Kids deserve to be brought into as stable a situation as possible, not just created because you're so in love. Love isn't enough.
2006-08-11 13:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both should get married first, then have a baby. Me and my husband been together 6 years and we're currently pregnant with our first. Being married will test your relationship and then you both will know if it's right for you to have a baby at the time. But good luck in whatever decision you make.
2006-08-11 13:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you and this may sound crazy, but i suggest to wait until you are 25. When you are 25 your brain is done growing and you are your partner have become the person you were meant to be. Also at this point you would have had some alone time together as adults, and have to chance you save some money.
Getting married is always nice, but I don't think that it is must.
2006-08-11 13:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're financially stable at 19 and 21??? B.S.
You should get married, start a family and enjoy life.
2006-08-11 14:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're way to young to know what you really want yet. Also, allow yourselves to enjoy your youth a little before becoming parents.Most people experience so much after 19 that they might not do if they were parents. I would say wait until you are around 24 or 25 minimum.
2006-08-11 13:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋