Im new at it and finding it to be very uncomfortable. Thank You
2006-08-11 06:25:01 · 11 answers · asked by Big Chris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can tell you that my ex-husband was married a month after the divorce was final. I don't know if that will help you or not. It took me about three years before I found a real man that did things with me. The others didn't have pure intentions.
2006-08-11 06:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to jump right into the dating scene, Huge mistake. You are very vulnerable right after a divorce and may get attached easily to anyone and believe that is "love". Wrong. It was just infatuation.
Second, dating rules changed since the last time I've dated. So it was awkward since I dodn;t know what to say or do and, most importantly, when. I didn't know what was too fast or too slow.
Absolutly clueless about everything! It's just like being a teenager all over again with all teh insecurities, but with bagagge, money and responsabilities.
Go slow and talk to single people to give you some tips before you are "out there" again.
Good luck
2006-08-11 06:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time it took me 2 years to start dating again. I had a large group of single friends (male and female) and I used them as my shield from one-on-one dating. The first date was scary! I didn't know what to say or how to act! It got a little easier as time went on.
The second time I find my self ready to date after 4 months. The reason is my 2nd marriage was one of "convenience" not love. He needed insurance and I needed help with bills. When we both were in better financial states we parted. No hurt feelings.
I am just at the stage of talking to men on the phone. I feel tongue-tied. I am taking things very slow. It will not be as long before I am actually dating this time because I did not need to heal from the second marriage.
2006-08-11 06:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be feeling uncomfortable because you are not exactly ready to enter the dating scene. Don't look so hard and do take your time. Sometimes things like this happen unexpectedly.
2006-08-11 06:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it was a little uncomfortable. I started "going out with friends" and then dating. I think the transition is a little better.
2006-08-11 06:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by SheShe13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances of your divorce....you'll know when the time is right to start dating again.
2006-08-11 07:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your new found freedom. First of all, remember you
now get to start over. Secondly, focus on the things that you have
been wanting to do. Take care of yourself first. Dont rush the dating thing; trust me, you'll know when it's time....and it will
feel natural....
Good Luck..
2006-08-11 06:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by C Med 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not divorced, I was widowed. Its been a choir to get back in the dating world...good luck!
2006-08-11 06:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, been 2+ years and I can't.
I don't want to go through that again.
I wouldn't want to waste anyone's time.
Now, if you have someone who understands this, that is a different story. ;-)
You aren't ready yet. You will know when you are.......
2006-08-11 09:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it took me a year and yes it was strange
2006-08-11 06:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋