its really difficult to tackle her sometimes.....i want to make her more confident ...wat should i do???????????
2006-08-11 06:22:17 · 4 answers · asked by nkdrathi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe she is crying to try and get your attention.
Instead, give her attention when she Isn't crying.
When she does cry (unless it's for something serious), treat it casually, as though it's no big deal that she's crying.
If you comfort and fawn over her every time she cries, she will just use crying to manipulate you.
2006-08-11 06:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Cina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to you are"useless" things are obviously big stuff to a 3-yr-old!! Can you try to joke her out of it? Say something like," Oh come on now, sweetie, it's ok..." while scooping her up and giving her a hug?
What do you mean by 'tackle' her? Not sure what that means. But just ignoring it probably won't make it go away..but it's worth a try. Unless she's hurt physically, or sad, or someone's made her feel bad, try ignoring it. Tell her that you think there are only certain things she cries about that you will try to help her with. That may sound mean, but if you try to get her to see that she will only get attention if her cries are serious, she might think twice.
Not totally sure, because my 2 kids' cries weren't what I'd called "useless." They cried if they were tired, hungry, bored, hurt, sad, angry...all of which are emotions that I understand. Think about it...she's 3, not an adult or an older child. So what she cries about and what we "think" are behaviors "worth" crying about are actually 2 different things!
Not sure if I've helped.
2006-08-11 13:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would stop tackling her, she would not cry.
Jokes aside...and I'm not a parent, but if you are giving in when she cries stop immediately. If you give in, it only reinforces in her mind that when she crys she gets what she wants.
Let her cry sometimes...its annoying, but have you ever noticed that after kids cry, they fall asleep?
2006-08-11 13:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is at the age where she is testing you... If she gets what she wants when she cries, she will continue... if she is throwing a temper tantrum..you have to walk away from her.. if she is in one room, go to another.. ignore her until she is done.. she will stop. but you have to be firm, and continue w/ this. If she does it in a store..dont give her what she wants when she is acting this way. it will pass..good luck
2006-08-11 13:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by jh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋