my fiance is a bottom, we want someone to join us in the bedroom, but looking for someone who is alright with me being there and even maybe joining in. We are having alot of trouble with this and its getting frustrating, is there any hope?? Our other option is an open relationship but for some reason i am having intense feelings of jealousy with him going out with other men without me.
2006-08-11 06:20:32 · 7 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hmmm forgive me and in this forum my answer really should not be dependent on your gender but are you female or male? I assume you are female but I cant be too sure.
I am not into anal but I can't imagine you having a problem finding a bisexual man willing to fill this spot. Most people wantign to swing want females only, So you should have no problems just post and add in most personal sites you can find many people willing to travel to get some of this type action.
A gay man might have problems with it so advertise for a bisexual man.
2006-08-11 06:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you can find a person to meet your needs on any number of personall ad sites. Look there, no there.
Second never open up the relationship. This is just asking for trouble. While a few of them work, most do not.
As for your current arrangement. I think it is wrong as well. When in a committed relationship it should only be you and your partner in it. however, this is your choice.
2006-08-11 07:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult but not impossible.
Where are you looking?
If you're putting up an ad at a local sex shop that is the wrong place entirely.
Is there a fetish or BDSM event in your area? If so, attend. And attend often. That is where you will meet people who are not only in the lifestyle, but sincere about it.
I reccomend buying the excellent book "Screw the roses, send me the thorns" and get educated on the subject.
Enjoy the journey.
2006-08-11 07:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting how you are willing to see your boyfriend get fawked by someone else, yet you feel jealous at the thought of him going out with someone without you.
I would never do threesomes because: 1. I'm jealous and I know what's mine. 2. There's the possibility of one of you getting left out of the equation during sex. One person always likes another better than the third. Now, I would hate it for my boyfriend to start liking to be in bed with someone else more than with me.
Never, ever share. Oh, and to answer your question, yes, you can find one. Just check out gay.com or craigslist--lots of people willing to do anything in those sites.
2006-08-11 06:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away from 3 ways!! they end up like a car crash! and an open relationship is like no relationship at all! if you are not a top then learn to be or bring toys into the bedroom!
2006-08-11 07:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
KooKoobananas' answered your question fully. I just want to add that if you wanted anything other than support or opinions on your quest for a top, please note that this is not a personal ads site.
2006-08-11 06:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put an ad in craigslist.
2006-08-11 07:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋