Do you think that many oriental parents make their children stressful, esp on their bad school grades?

Question

This is affected only their parent from Oriental (China, Japan, Vietnam) who push their children to work hard with perfection to have an excellent grade. No failure and mistake don't exist in their vocabularies, which is considered a dishonor and end of the world. Because many children are stressful, end up with mediocre grades although they tried the very best not to fail, they fear that their strict oriental parents will be actually very disappointed and tyrannical and that might commiting suicide. Agree and why?

Answer 1

I am a second generation American Vietnamese (note that I am an American first). My Mother probably put more pressure to do better in school than many of my friend's parents, but it wasn't as you and others are describing. It was more of an encouragement to concentrate and do better rather than receiving ridicule for getting a B instead of an A. I was self motivated and harder on myself than my Mother ever was.

I did pretty good in school, but my Brother was a solid C student in medicore classes. My Mother never ridiculed my Brother for doing poorly, but probably should have been tougher on him.

What's more prevalent in Oriental culture is family values and stature. There is a lot more expected of me being the oldest son than of my Brother. This is naturally accepted in the native countries, but not readily accepted by American kids. I regularly have bitter arguments with my Mother about cultural responsibilities that I consider ridiculous to follow.

Answer 2

nearly all orientals who either immigrate here or are 2nd or 3rd generation citizens will put extraordinary amounts of stress on their kids to perform to the best. it's how they were instilled as kids and therefore pass it on to their kids. kids who grow up in the states generally will abide by these rules but some do fail and become, lost children. back in their native country, it is FAR worse. my relatives in Korea are extremely strict on their kids education and bad grades lead to a whooping.

nips is a deragatory slang for japanese

Answer 3

properly, it does count on WHY the toddler has undesirable grades. There are some teenagers who do not provide a crap approximately college and intentionally slack off with the aid of in no way analyzing or doing their homework and sound asleep with the aid of classification, after which finally end up failing virtually each and every classification. there is rather no excuse for that and that i understand why mum and dad punish teenagers like that. yet, interior the situations the place the toddler is generally an outstanding pupil yet is suffering in a undeniable subject and not getting stellar grades in it, I completely accept as true with you...punishment solves not something. If the toddler is putting forth all of their attempt, handing over homework, and analyzing for tests, yet nonetheless not doing so properly, punishing them isn't honest, and fully pointless. it won't magically lead them to understand each and every of the textile, if something, the possibility of punishment and understanding that they won't in any respect please their mum and dad no remember how a lot they warfare will in simple terms lead them to extra stressful and ought to even consequence in poorer grades. in the experience that your toddler is suffering then the two you may desire to help them, or you need to get them a teach. in simple terms yelling "you're grounded!" won't strengthen something, and it rather is somewhat lazy on the mother and dad' section, it rather appears like they only will not be able to difficulty to sit down down with their toddler and help them or come across a teach, so as that they faux that with the aid of punishing their toddler they're somewhat doing some thing with regard to the area whilst they are truthfully not.

Answer 4

Yup, they sure put extraordinary amount of pressure on the kids. Culturally, education has been a status symbol for centuries, esp in China. Emperors used to assign political power to people who scored the best on their standarized tests. People automatically associate good marks to prosperity, power and prestige. In the last couple of decades people who have escaped to America mostly likely did it because their high marks caused them to be strong candidates for overseas degrees.

If you looked closely though, what's the difference between this and families who put extreme pressure on their kids to do well in sports cuz their families are athletic or pressure them in to politics because their dad was the president?

Answer 5

Every machine is operated within it's designed limits either functional or safty. We are machines with shared design limits , yes it's okay to push your little prodigy but know the limits of balance and keep them curious. In a class of students where they are + or -- within grasp of one another; it is good to linger on the study at hand until every student knows it to capacity of retention. one room school houses were great, you could catch-up or recover the material,and if you still failed, perhaps they would take a special interest in your problem. Not everyone is schoolastic to college!

Answer 6

I agree, Oriental parents do force their children to accept nothing but perfect grades. I think it's a cultural differnce.

Answer 7

I don't know any "orientals" who aren't atleast 3rd generation American and while thier parents expect them to do their best, I don't think they have suicidal pushing.

to the person who said "nips" WTF is a NIP?