What would you do?

Question

if you found that your wife/husband is having a secret affair with your neighbour whose wife/husband you are attracted to?
a little reasoning will help. this is very important for me. will be indebted for a nice piece of advice. thanks.

Answer 1

Don't swing with your neighbors. If you do, you will just end up wanting to swap houses and spouses and who knows whether that will even work out.

What you should do is address the issue of your spouse's infidelity. Does it secretly turn you on or are you hurt and upset? Speak with your spouse and express your concern about the relationship. Don't make any accusations - only ask whether they are happy. Suggest that you go on a weekend trip to rekindle the romance.

Having a neighbor as a fling is a serious "affair" since it is right there. If you own your house, the cost of moving can be expensive... and perhaps running away isn't the best solution because your spouse is cheating for a reason.

As for you and your attraction - seriously reconsider it. Are you just going with an opportunity because it seems available or are you genuinely interested in this person to the point that you want to lose your marriage over it?

I'm not trying to tell you what the "moral" thing to do is. You guys are four grown adults. What I'm saying however, is that you need to think straight about what you want to do. If you can put up with being temporary swingers who may decide to one day quit and then have to live awkwardly next to each other for the next few decades - then so be it. If you decide that your relationship with your spouse isn't worth it - then leave... and seek someone other than your neighbor (unless you really feel that's worth it). Just work through the different scenarios in your head and go with what you feel is right. As for me, I would leave my husband. For him to cheat on me with someone, especially with them being right under my nose, would be extremely hurtful.

Answer 2

This is a tough one, but I would confront my wife about it and also let my neighbour's wife know about the affair. If has gone so far and I have no kids yet with my wife, then I guess that's the end of the marriage. But if there were kids, i guess for their sake I will give my wife a second chance.

Answer 3

I first would get some hard evidence, secondly I would tell the other partner (Not out of revenge, but out of concern) I would then leave them to solve their own relationship problems, and tend to my own. If I couldnt resolve my relationship and we ended up breaking up, I would be a friend to the other individual during their relationship troubles. They might decide to stay together, or may not. Either way both parties need time to heal before you start messing around with anyone else cause it can make you unstable.

Answer 4

You are better off finding a way to move away from that area. In fact, the best thing to do is to move to area where all the neighbours around you are ugly. That way, there is no reason to cheat.

Answer 5

if your thinking about turning the tables and having an affair with the other persons spouse then don't!!! An eye for an eye is not the best road to go.
I would confront my spouse about the situation and say what was on my mind and be open to what they had to say. i would talk about what to do next, whether it be try to forgive or to separate.
other then that i can't tell you i hope i helped you!!

Answer 6

that's a tough question is the other neighbour attracted to you if that is the case than perhaps you guys should swap mates

Answer 7

You get rid of your wife and find a good woman who will not cheat on you. No good can come from the situation you are trying to get into.

Answer 8

Have them over one night...have a few drinks until your all feeling a little tipsy...then suggest a 4some...or swap session. That way everyone involved will have a little fun and no one will have to be accused.

Answer 9

Well, I would have everyone sit down and have a meeting about this. There is a possibility of maybe doing a swinger thing? Keep an open mind, and it will help save your relationship. She was looking for something you aren't giving her

Answer 10

shag the neighbours wife or swap partners for good move in with each other and move on with your life .one thing though are their any children involved ,hmmm just a thought .