I Miss Him?

Question

Hi all I love one guy with whom i use to hang out for more than 2 years, he too like me as a frnd and more than tat. v talk every day, exchange our hapiness, sorrow, even v share money when the other dont have, even she had physical relation. He was always there when ever i wanted him, He comforts me, guides me and on the whole, life is like a desert for me with out him. But the thing is I never proposed him neither he. Now my parents are looking match for me, he knows tat. when i asked him tat i like him, he said i am very sentimental which he doesnt like in me. I always quarrel with him when ever he looks at gals to tease me, i really use to make big war, so he got irritated with me. wat shall i do to make him accept my love. I want to be with him.

Answer 1

he is so lucky

Answer 2

I am afraid that time has passed you by. Learn this lesson...nobody likes fighting...and you, by admission, started wars over nothing. YOU cannot own anyone, ever. They are free to look at what they want, even share comments...so enjoy the conversation. Too many women think that if they love someone, they own them....never true. You drove him away by showing your true colors once too often. Change yourself, let go of the idea that your mate cannot do anything without your approval. That is a losers way to handle romance..and in fact, costs more people the person they love than you can count....not very wise. The wise woman doesn't worry about her man looking at other women..big deal. IN Fact, point out the ones that are really hot....share instead of trying to deny it is going to happen..always. IT costs you nothing to have fun with it. Move on, he is gone. Good luck

Answer 3

Sorry honey. I went through the same thing a few months ago. I was with someone for a year with NO intimacy. But he always told me he loved me and I was never getting rid of him. I gave him money, bought him a car, bought all sorts of things for him. I was ALWAYS there for him and he was never there when I needed him and he never gave me what I needed which was the feeling of love and affection. I finally learned it wasn't there for him and someone else asked me out and won my heart over. You can't MAKE someone want or love you. I am happier now with this guy than I ever was with the other. Though I think sometimes I have a problem because I still think nicely of the other, and I guess I always will, but, I found out as I hope you do, there is someone else out there. Try to keep your mind occupied with other things and people for now and if this is the right one for you it will happen in time. Just remember, you aren't gonna do anything at all to MAKE it happen, sorry. Best of luck to you. God bless you.

Answer 4

I assume that you are in a culture in which parents might arrange marriage for their daughters? It sounds like you are in love with this guy, but honestly, you HAVE to let go of your jealousy and insecurities. Don't quarrel with him anymore! That will surely push any man away. Men want to think they are in control, not being controlled. As a woman, you get to have your share of control in the relationship too, but you have to go about it differently. A man will do anything for a woman he feels secure with, who encourages him to be his very best, who is always loving and supportive of him, and who makes him feel good about himself. Quarrelling out of jealousy will not do any of those things. From what you describe, it sounds like he is deliberately doing it just to get to you... really to assert himself and to show you that you are not going to dominate him. If he returns your love and you build upon your relationship into something more, and he feels secure with you, I think this behavior will stop. I suggest that when you have the opportunity, casually tell him that, "I realize now that I have been a jerk to you when I quarrel with you about other girls. I'm sorry about that. I promise not to do that anymore. Will you forgive me?...." Then go for a walk or bake cookies or something. It sounds like if you don't make the changes in you very soon, he might be gone and you might be married to someone you don't love. There is no guarantee of the outcome, but this is the best advice I can give based on what you said. Best of luck to you!

Goldwing gave you some great advice too. Listen to what that person said. I'm just not so sure it's completely time to cut your losses altogether.

Answer 5

I would just give it up, to be honest. If you've been together for 2 years and he still says he just wants you as a friend, he's probably not going to change that. I would stop giving him everything he wants, too. You're going to come across as being desperate and that's what some men like to play off of.

Answer 6

Tell him how you feel, tell him that you could live without him, except, you don't want to ;) . SOunds romantic though, but i'd just spit everything out whetehr it sounds good or not. There is no point holding feelings bakc when it will only worsen without telling him. Of course he gets irritated but still, a guy likes agirl that can get mess with him soemtimes haha

Answer 7

First of all,dont make the guy feel that you are desperate for him coz it will only cause him to run in the other direction as fast as possible!Try to look up this site for more info.
www.CatchHimAndKeepHim.com

Answer 8

Certain things cannot be force, ask him is he able to accept your love or not? If he cant dont wast your time on him.

There is definately someone out there for you.

Answer 9

sruthi, u need to resolve this issue at yur own. In my view u need to give him a SPACE..........and wait for the little time to pass.

don show yur exciteness, wait paitently.................u will find the answer!! If he too loves u really......he will start missing u and wud soon come over from this space at his own.........otherwise u make it sure he is not for u.

Answer 10

Your choice is wrong.
There are more things other than love in life.Leave him.Go for a better man.

Answer 11

Move on to someone that wants you. And stay in school, this was hard to read.