My fiancee hooked up with a girl, b4 our relationship became serious and he is 2 old 2 have believed what this girl said but she told him she couldn't get pregnant. She did. I told him he better be glad he didn't catch a disease, because if she lied about that then she will lie about anything. I told him he should have used protection. When she told him, he told her he didn't want 2 be with her, which he had told her time after time and she fell in love. he told her she was just a fling and she didn't want 2 believe it. He also told her 2 abort or put the baby up 4 adoption. He didn't hear from her 4 about 6 months and when he did he found out that she kept the baby. He wants 2 give up rights 2 this child. I told him he should also get a dna test because she isn't trustworthy. She didn't put his opinion into account and now she wants 2 threaten and try 2 milk him. It isn't right. What should we do?
2006-08-11 05:58:21 · 4 answers · asked by impulsevixen2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you know what. Even though she lied and said she couldn't get pregnant. He has no right to give away his parental rights unless he wants to. A child needs his mom and dad not just a mom no matter what the situation. And you you should be the one to tell him to be a man about the life he created. If you don't that makes you less of a woman.
2006-08-11 06:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the DNA test. He might be the parent. That's the only way to find out.
In regards to whether a man should be able to give up his rights just because a woman doesn't abort her child or put it up for adoption, is absurd. Your fiancee should have thought of the consequences before he engaged in premarital sex.
As a woman, it seems odd that you're asking this question. What if you were placed in this situation. What if your fiancee made you pregnant and decided to leave you? Maybe your first step would be to abort but what if you decided to have that child, would you want him not to take responsibility?
2006-08-11 06:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by BlueLantern 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first let me say a child needs thier father that does not mean the childs mother needs the father just the child get that dna test done if it is his then he needs to decide if he is going to be a father think about when the child is old enough to understsnd that his/her father didnt want him/her how would you feel if your dad gave up his rights to you i know i would hate him can your man realy give up his rights and have his flesh and blood hate him
2006-08-11 06:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely he should get a DNA test.
But if he is the father he has financial responsibilities to the child.
After all it doesnt sound like he was forced to have sex with this woman, and the child should not have to suffer.
2006-08-11 06:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋