One of my best friends since like the second grade basically hates all my other friends except 1. He has told me he hates them, especally the guy i like. He is my oldest friend and i know him the most, i have other friends but he refuses to be friends with them or accept them, they are willing to accept him but he just wont. It has caused me so much drama, and i tried to stop being friends with my oldest friend but i just couldnt stay away from him, he and i are too good of friends. He has other friends too, and i dont especally like them but i accept them and tolerate him so that he isnt in the same position i am in with him. I have asked him to just accept them and tolerate them, he said he would try but so far i havent seen much effort. What should i do?
2006-08-11 05:57:49 · 11 answers · asked by Bryn H 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
none of these guys are my b/f, and i dont think this guy likes me, he is always asking me for advice on how to get more girls
2006-08-11 06:33:59 · update #1
There is nothing you can do to change how he feels about your friends. But you don't have to put up with it. You can hang with him on your own, so it doesn't cause you to be put in the middle. If you start spending more time with the others then him, explain to him the situation again. Eventually he will figure it out. There are some people that can't hang out with more then one friend at a time because they need constant attention. Even adults. He may grow out of it, and he may not. It could also be that he's interested in you on a more personal level and doesn't know how to approach you with it.
2006-08-11 06:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when I was in high school & middle school. I wish I could tell ya to just get rid of him, but that's not what I did. I took the cowardly way out & snuck around having my other friends over when they didn't know about it. It worked & I'm still friends with all of them, but I wouldn't advise it, it put too much unneeded stress on me & was worried about everybody else's feelings more than my own. Seriously take a good look at your friendship with him- is he really worth all the stress? And the limiting yourself to only him? You are young, you need to expirience more than what just one person has to offer, maybe it's time to move on. If he's not willing to help you & give a little more effort, that's not really being a good friend. I didn't have the courage to say bye bye to my bad friend, but I know I *should* have. We still fight pretty often when I talk about my other friends, but what am I supposed to do? Stay home all by myself when they're working? I should actually still dump them LOL Anyway, all I can say is reevaluate how much they really mean to you & if you think that they will be there for the rest of your life (or at least a long part of it) or if there is more potential in that other group of friends. Good luck I hope it works out for you.
2006-08-11 13:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by starlightstarbright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I have the same problem I just try to deal with it and try to explain to him that you have other friends that you want to hang out with them too. This is the best answer I could come up with sorry.
2006-08-11 13:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by czubl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes you and he is just a wee bit jealous cause you like the other guy.
2006-08-11 13:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Kandi Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont make him accept all of your other friends, because if he doesnt he doesnt.end of story. just hang out with him seperately than you do with ur other friends.
2006-08-11 14:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by fashionistaqt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres what i have to say how much do u love your boyfriend more then your friends or less
which one would you prefere. your boyfriend could dump you. but friends would stick with you. even in an fight or pain
BEST-OF-LUCK!!! Kelyse
2006-08-11 13:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by koolgirlatskool@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont loose your friendship with him..keep being friends with the other friends you have but also be friends with him..maybe he's jealous n just dosent realize it
2006-08-11 13:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by LilAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think he feels insecure and fears losing your friendship as you gain more friends; you just have to tell him the truth and reassure him - the rest is up to him
2006-08-11 13:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by KingRichard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i think he is simply jealous of u mixing around with others..he might even b interested in u ..
2006-08-11 13:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by devangel1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happened to me. Im not gonna go into fussy detail but the fact is. HE SOOOOOOOOOOOOO LIKES U!!!
2006-08-11 14:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by yellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋