when do you become a man ?

Question

a boy can biologically have a child, a boy can get married, a boy can go to war( and they do and die), is manhood a gradual process or the outcome of a specific event?

Answer 1

I believe a boy becomes a man when he begins to take responsibility for his actions. Having the balls to admit he makes mistakes and do what it take to make right what he has wronged.

Answer 2

13

Answer 3

Being a man isn't what happens at some fixed time along the course of life, it's a state of mind which effects the way men look at the world, and react to it. A man isn't defined by what he is - progenitor, warror, poet - a man is defined by what he does, and when and why he does it:

IF

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

Rudyard Kipling

Answer 4

You become a man when you take on the responsibilities of a man and grow into them. It is a gradual process, although certain events can cause others to become men earlier.

Whether you become a man or just remain an overgrown boy depends on how you handle the responsibilities you are given, how they change your thinking and whether or not they help you achieve the qualities of manhood--self-control, strength
(whether of mind or body), commitment to something other than yourself (family, work, country, God), something you consider worth living for and dying for if need be. And gentleness--not borne of weakness or fear, but of strength.

You become a man as you learn your qualities, test them in various ways, from childhood on through the rest of your life.
Am I competitive? You find that out on the playing field. Am I fair? Will I stop at nothing to win, or are ethical considerations and considerations of friendship important. What are my gifts and talents? Do I have the perseverance to do to the work it takes to develop these gifts? You learn this at home, at school, in your hobbies. Do I have courage? We find this one out at different ages and under different circumstances. And we don't get to choose. This one usually gets dropped on us cold. Fear is not a lack of courage, though. It's what we do with the fear. Do we run, or do we stay the course.

When we fail, do we pick ourselves back up or just curl up in a ball or take to liquor or drugs? All these kinds of things determine whether or not a man grows to be a real man, and a woman a real woman (although her challenges may or may not be different).

God bless,

Maggie

Answer 5

I totally agree w/ Big Blue's answer. Just because a male species hits puberty, doesn't mean that they are a man. A man is someone who takes responsibility for his actions and treats others, especially elders and the opposite sex with nothing but respect!

Answer 6

1 day

Answer 7

If your Jewish, I guess it's when you have your barmitsva
(13 I think) and if your any other religeon then it's 18.

Answer 8

at the age of 18 i guess.

Answer 9

WELL A RIVERS GONNA FLOW TO THE SEA TO THE SEA,ONLY ONCE IN ITS LIFE IS IT FREE...AND A BOY IS GONNA GROW TO A MAN TO A MAN AND ONLY ONCE WILL HE TRULY BE FREE....

Answer 10

In utero