i have seperated from my wife i lover her to bits and cant stop thinking about her how can i move on ?

Answer 1

Is the separation your choice or hers? I don't understand why you are separated if you still have such strong feelings for her. Is it possitble to work it out. Otherwise you just need to focus on your well being. Start working out of you don't already. Workout a little bit more if you already do. Mingle with others your own age at community social events. Find a new hobby. Just keep your mind occupied with other things so that you don't think about her so much.

Answer 2

Think about the reasons why you separated- lack of sex, other people involved, no love left, children wanted/not wanted??? Did you think about her much when you were splitting up? If you know that for whatever reason you cant ever, ever get back with her (is it possible to try/)? then all you can do is wait. Your feeling will lessen in time, but dont expect it ever to go away, because it wont. Try and find someone else, as a friend if nothing else. Match.com and BBW etc are good.

Answer 3

If this is a complete and final separation and there is no hope for saving your marriage, then you move on by focusing your attention in some other direction. Put your time and energy into something or someone else. For example, you could spend time working to improve a relationship with your mom or other relative or with a friend. You could take a class and learn something new. You could throw yourself into a hobby. Or spend a lot of time working out at a gym. You could volunteer at an organization and spend time helping other people. Do something that requires your attention, focus, and energy.

Every time you think of her, shift your thoughts to something else. Don't wallow in your feelings for her. Eventually, if you "starve" those feelings enough and don't feed them, they will die.

I'm sorry for the loss of your marriage.

Answer 4

i was in your same shoes not too long ago, you can look at my questions, the question you want to ask yourself is this what is necessary, and does your wife love you, if you feel any spark at all do not give up. your marriage is worth fighting for , your loved ones are worth fighting for.

now if there is no spark then it will be a long hard road, the first few days are very hard, you may cry, you may not be able to eat, and so forth, but eventually it will get better. it took me like 3 weeks to stop thinking bout her all the time, it is the rejection that is hurting you once you realize this and start to think about how to improve yourself , not what she wants you to do ,but what you need for yourself you will have a whole new look on life.

Answer 5

I agree with everyone else. If you love her so much, why did you separate? Marriage is not meant to be easy. It's family. Your relationships with your mother/father or sisters/brothers isn't always easy, but you remain a family. When you choose to marry someone, you marry them for all you know of them and for all they will or may not become. I would see if your wife is willing to seek counseling with you and try to work it out. Divorce has become such an easy way for people to give in or give up. Life is not meant to be a bed of roses 24/7. If there was never a struggle, no one would ever evolve.

Answer 6

it's a hard thing to do it takes time tears and friends!
just keep your self busy for a while and everytime you think of her just accept the thought and then move on to a new thought! don't drag on the one thought! or day dream about it! it will make you miss her more and make it more difficult on yourself!
I'm not going to tell you to get with someone else!
you neeed some time for yourself and friends so you can recover!
a time frame
for every month you were with her! that is a week of getting over her... eg if you were with her for 8 months then in 8 weeks you should start to feel better
Good luck!
It will get better

Answer 7

Time. It takes time. (and probably a new girlfriend).

Two years, at least, to get through the grieving process (and it is a greiving process - your relationship has "died").

A nasty divorce filled with bitterness, recrimination and huge expenses will also help you get over your feelings for your wife. But I don't really recommend it.

Since you have separated from her, why are you so regretful?

don't jump into anything serious with someone else for a while. Not until you stop obsessing over your wife, anyway.

Good luck to you.

Answer 8

First thing you need to do is find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Go out with friends with the rule they wont discuss your wife. Read a good book. Take a mini vacation that you always wanted to do. It will be hard at first but it will get easier.

Answer 9

Sorry to hear that dude. Listen up. You got to think to yourself, hey it's over, I can't change that. You can't dwell on it, no matter how hard it is. The more you try and get on with life and get out there the more the memory moves to the back of mind, becoming less significant in your life. Just hold your head up...

Answer 10

Why not take her out for a quiet dinner, take some flowers along, talk, discuss what each other wants from the marriage and how you can move things forward, hopefully with each other, good luck