2006-08-11 05:44:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I get different answers from different sources for this one, but the answer is more or less the same - the difference between what you're getting out of your relationship and what he's getting.
First and foremost, you and he need to talk. Pretty urgently. You'll need to talk to him about what you're looking for in terms of your sexual needs, and what he's after.
There is a chance that he's perceiving something amiss in the relationship with you. He can sense that you're settling in, and he could be misinterpreting this as being that you are falling out of love with him somehow, where in your heart that's not the case. To compensate, he could be trying to make the relationship as fun and as sexy as it was at the start, and he can't see that when a relationship settles, the libido actually decreases as stronger and more stable emotional bonding takes over.
So you and he will really need to talk about this. You could explain how all the sex is turning you off, achieving the very thing he fears; and that he doesn't need to perform for you so much as just be there for you. And you and he can enjoy sex: only now you can afford to put some time in between, so you can enjoy one another's company without the expectations.
If you can make it plain to him that he doesn't have to perform for you, and that if he's still got a huge libido for you that he can channel it in other ways as well, and still be your long term lover, then you've got a chance of getting him to realise the joy of a longer term relationship.
If, on the other hand, he starts behaving childishly and making irrational demands from you, he'll be revealing himself to be sexually immature, and pretty much you have carte blanche from me to dump the little boy, send him back to his sandpit or play with his dollies. Go look for some man instead.
2006-08-11 05:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain to him that he has a higher sex drive than u and than his demands r turning u off .but if u want to keep ur relationship why don,t u meet him half way u have sex sometimes when u r not in the mood but he has to do without it sometimes. if other parts of ur relationship r good then u both have to have a little come and go and if that doesn,t work he might b better looking for a girl with a higher sex drive
2006-08-11 12:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by herberto48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that there is more to life than sex and u like him and want to sort out things than have sex
2006-08-11 12:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to have a J Arther Rank
2006-08-11 12:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by bty937915 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak up and tell him that you don't want to have sex. If he pursists, dump him as he obviously has no respect for you.
2006-08-11 13:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you... that could be a factor...
Talk with him... Let him know how you feel
maybe instead of sex you could say give him boob or hand jobs...
2006-08-11 16:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to wack off more as he's not going to get it as much as he wants.
2006-08-11 12:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by chapers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE IT ALL UP NOW.HOW DO YOU EXPECT IT TO WORK OUT IF HE IS YES, YOU ARE NO,GET A BOYFRIEND WHO IS NOT SO SEX MAD OR DIDN'T YOU THINK ABOUT THAT SOLUTION
2006-08-11 12:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him ur feelings........
if he pressurise u ,strongly tell him NO
Love is not only a physical relation ,it is coming from heart...
He must understand ur problem
2006-08-11 14:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by S_J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being a freakin prude. Give me the nappy and make it snappy.
2006-08-11 12:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by RICH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋