the first grandchild in our family was just born 2 days ago! i am so excited over having a baby in the family (my sis's baby) and i love going to see him and the parents of course and holding the baby! i could hold him for hours on end! well i think my fiance is feeling deglected because i am constantly talking about the baby and wanting to go see him after we get off of work. i am trying really hard to make sure i pay attention to my fiance and spend time with him, but i still think he is feeling this way! i know you may say it is shildish blah blah, but when you go from focusing 110% of your time on someone then go to spending alot of that time on the baby it is a big huge change! i understand where he is coming from because i would feel the same way if roles were reversed! we live together so we are together all the time, but i am trying my hardest to give him attn, and talk to him alot and all. is this normal or what do i need to do to balance the time. tonight i told himwe would
2006-08-11 05:22:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
not go to the hospital and we would stay home together, eat in and watch a movie! what else should i do?
2006-08-11 05:23:29 · update #1
Tell him to grow up, the baby is brand new, your not going to keep going there for months and months on end, plus the parents of the baby need some time alone with the baby also. He just needs to understand that.
2006-08-11 05:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Minn_Girl_16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what more can you say he is a grown man and he is acting a bit child dish he should know from the bottom of your heart that you love him and nothing will change that. Your just excited that the baby is now here and he should understand that. Maybe he feels this way b/c he want a child of his own with you, but overall he really should get over it this is not a competition to see who can get the most attention. If you feel that way about your new nephew or niece go right a head because they are only new once in a life time and you have to get the best of it while it last. he would come through one day and understand your feelings.
2006-08-11 05:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about him you follow your heart. kids grow up so fast spend all the time you need after all what would we be without our family kids are important.maybe just try to talk to him and let him know your sorry but you cant help the way you feel and right now the baby is important to you. believe me the new wears off and things will go back to normal and if not you know were he stands and it would of been a matter of time anyway..
2006-08-11 05:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's this neglected/upset/worried about your nephew, how's he going to feel when you guys have a baby and your very own baby is the center of your attention?
Don't take any time away from visiting your nephew...just try to make sure the free time you do have is spent with your fiancee. I wouldn't try to do anything special...just do the same stuff you always do. If you do decide to have children, he's going to have to grow up pretty fast and realize that he's not going to be the center of attention forever. (You think you love your nephew...just wait until you have one of your own. It's indescribable. :))
2006-08-11 07:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you're spending equal time, at the very least, with your fiance and nephew. Make the time you spend alone with him special; try going out and doing an activity that you know he likes, but you wouldn't usually be interested in. If he knows you're going out of your way to have fun with him, he won't feel so neglected.
2006-08-11 07:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...I had a child recently and if any of my bros or sisters wanted to visit me/the child more than once a week I'd be weirded out bigtime...because I'd know for sure it wasnt about ME.
You keep slapping your man (indirectly) about wanting a child when he's not ready and you will be without a fiancee. Its not about the new baby or your sister...its about your own cluckiness. If YOU want a baby...talk to your man about when/if etc and stop plugging into this newbie as if you were part ownership.
2006-08-11 05:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well stay away from the baby 3 days out of the week and spend four w/ him and by the way are you sure its oyur siss baby you want to be around or if you want ot get prego your self? find out and hake the advice that way he isnt neglectided
2006-08-14 13:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by none of your biz. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋