What makes a husband fall in LOVE with his wife all over and make his eyes sparkle again?

Question

We have been married for almost 5 years and we just had a baby one year ago. He used to call me all the time from work and say hello beautiful. now he hardly looks at me when he gives me a peck on the mouth. He makes me feel so insecure. I try to dress nice for him but he doesnt complement me. Most of the time he says he doesnt care if I dress up that I look fine with out make-up. I dont get it! He Doesn't believe in divorce nor do I...however this also makes me feel like mabe he is not in love with me anymore and feels like he's just stuck with me. I rather someone leave me than feel like they are stuck with me and don't love me. I confused, In every relationship I have had in the past the men were totally in love with me I could see the love in their eyes. I was always the one to leave them and they kept looking for me. This is so different for me I feel very insecure now.

Answer 1

The problem is HIM, not you. Now that you have to spend so much time taking care of a child, he may feel (immaturely) that he isn't the center of the universe anymore.

You are finding out what many women find out--that there is a weak, self-centered side to the man they married.

Don't act desparate--that just fuels his ego and arrogance.

Men want what they can't have--that never changes. Stop trying so hard--and give him distance. One person can not fix a broken marriage--it has to be both.

Answer 2

When people get married they relax and get comfortable. With the baby added to the picture it is normal to loose some of the romance. It doesn't necessarily mean there is trouble. He might just be taking you for granted. Get out of the hum drum. You tried by dressing for him but go all the way. Make it a point to spend time together. Your probably a good wife and mom so you don't have time to be a good girlfriend. Date each other again. Get a baby sitter, dress up and go do what you use to do. See if you see any signs of affection. Hopefully your both just caught up in responsibility and when you take some time together you will feel some heat again. It is different after marriage but it should still be there. If it's not you two have to honestly talk about what's going on but don't judge him, just show you care and don't want to loose what you have.

Answer 3

Try doing the things that you did before he decided to marry you. Don't just dress up, dress sexy. Meet him at the door in a sexy outfit and drop it off after he steps inside. A naked body makes us men just forget what else is going on.

If he has special interests, try to like them too. If he loves football, make the popcorn and sit there with him and cheer. If he likes to fish, ask him to get you a rod and reel so you can go too.

Make his favorite foods. It's true that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

Meaningful touches are important. Not just groping either. A hand on his hand or a touch on the cheek. A love pat as he walks past. These should be done at least a dozen times every day.

Tell him how much he means to you. Let him see what a great woman he has.

If he still does not respond, its not you. Hope it works out.

Answer 4

When the bloom is off a relationship, it's off forever. This is a normal thing and you shouldn't let it bother you. Now's the time for you to roll up your sleeves and get down to the business of being married, rather than simply being in love. All couples have differences that can't be resolved. Accept them or leave. Most everyone in the whole world who is married learns this.
The exceptions are shallow Hollywood stars who pack up and leave the moment they find that they aren't hot for each other every waking second of the day and they call it irreconcilable differences. Hello Carmen Electra.

Answer 5

You said that you were the one that always left and that these men would look for you.....is that what is bothering you? The Chase?
What would happen if you respected him enough to get back the security you have in yourself?
Building a Family, and taking on more responsibility takes away the attention you are used to showing to one another.
Jealousy comes in many forms, let it go........next time he is leaving for work, and he comes towards you with "The Peck", try reaching out for him and remind him of the Passion and Sparkle you still have for him.
Arrange a Play Date with your husband, and a babysitter for your child.
Show him how you can Shine!!

Answer 6

I have been married 10 years and we have never lost the spark. We keep things fresh and new by communicating well, trying new things, making each other feel like we are the sexiest people alive etc. It just takes work but it is SO worth it. Don't let every day life get you in a rut. I have heard so many people say "I am married, why should I care how I look?" That is so wrong. You should care for yourself and your spouse. Don't ever take things for granted about yourself or him.

Answer 7

Honestly....sit your husband down and have a long talk. Tell him how you are feeling. He is probably feeling the same thing, but just doesn't know how you might react. I've been in your shoes before to where my wife was feeling the same way. I had to reassure her that I am still madly in love with her as the first day I met her. It's just that when you have a baby, it's a whole lot of other responsibilities that you have to take care of...and it wears you out. He could just be stressed out and don't know how to come to you about it...and the same with you. So just sit him down and have a heart to heart talk.

Answer 8

For your info, men look at women not their dress. The dresses are for other women folk. Your baby must have caused a small gap in your otherwise steady relationship. If you are back to normal health and fitness then start afresh and spend more time with him. Go on a vaction to release the stress of work and routine life.

Answer 9

The great sex you had the first 6 months or year is biological in nature. It's nature's way of getting you reproduce. After that, you settle into a "love" state for a while so you can raise a child.

A great way to cheat nature and get that lust back is to play some sex games to keep things fresh. As the wise sage Chris Rock said, "You got to recycle the pxxxy. If it ain't new, it's through."

Answer 10

It sounds like you need to discuss this with him- but do not do it in an angry way, otherwise he'll just get mad and close himself off.Try acting the way you did when you first got together.Try slapping a mad passionate kiss on him; initiate hot crazy sex in an unexpected part of the house, at an unexpected time.Hold hands in public; embrace him.Maybe he's wondering about regaining the spark himself.Take the baby to a trustworthy sitter and rock his world!