Should I end this relationship?

Question

I have been in a beautiful relationship for about 6 years now. My man is the best thing that ever happened to me. I really believe that we have that perfect partnership that everyone in the world seeks and should have. The problem: He NEVER wants to get married. We are both 30. I am not comfortable with us simply being bf and gf when we're in our 40's, 50's and so on. I do eventually want to marry. Should I end this to find someone that eventually wants to 'seal the deal'?? Or stay with my happy relationship unmarried forever??

Answer 1

if u really think marriage is important and feel like it's something that u gotta do, then why not end it now.. if u stay ur gonna feel like u deserve so much more and ur always gonna wonder why and ur always gonna envy the girl that got proposed to or married..

i say let him know how u feel and cut ur losses.. let him know that marriage is something that u want and if he doesn't feel like u are the one after 6 long years then u need to find someone else..

don't settle for less...

Answer 2

seems like he is very selfish. He has the intention to leave you that is why he doesn't want to marry. If the man really love you, at the age of 30 and the relations have been going on for 6 years definitely going to marry.

He might never love you with all his heart, every girls want to marry with the man that they love. For me, I have been in love for few times and i dont really care if I only love the man 100% or not. The most important is he loves me 100% and I'll be good to him, never betray him too.

Another possibility is, your bf never want to marry because of financial problem. Discuss with him to find out any acceptable reason. If all the reason is not acceptable, bare in mind that he actually wants you to leave him as he can't find the way to leave you. For better for worse, discuss with him before you make any decision.

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Answer 3

Obviously, then, it is NOT a perfect partnership.

Is this really, truly a dealbreaker for you? Trust your insticts. The fact you are even asking this question shows that you have some doubts about this relationship.

Shore up all of your courage and talk to your boyfriend. What are his reasons for not wanting to get married? Hear him out and decide whether you want to spend your whole life as a girlfriend or if you are willing to go out and find someone to be your husband.

Answer 4

ask him that whether he will b fine ending up such a beautiful relationship just 4 the fear of commitment.i hope he will b positive and not hurt u.tel him that he shud hav told this in the beginning itself and hav no rite to play with ur sentiments.if he luvs u he wud care about how u feel and if he doesnt luv u and being selfish then do u thnk there is ne point carrying on with relation

Answer 5

well tell him how you feel...you could always just be "common law married" but if you've been together for 6 years already and if you really love each other you'll come to an agreement ...like you said - ur happy where you're at...u might not find that again

Answer 6

first of all there are common law marriages, lol you have one more year to go, lol. like my momma says why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? Tell him that you want more and if there is a problem then he doesn't trully want you

Answer 7

I'm going through the same thing. I am trying to seperate myself from him. It is so hard, but I think it will be better in the long run. These men will be sorry they let us get away!

Answer 8

Find someone else who wants to get married.

You won't feel secure with this guy.

Answer 9

You two should see a relationship/marriage counselor to work through this. He has some issues that he needs to work through.

Answer 10

Get rid of him.
Why wouldn't he want to marry the girl of his dreams?
That's insane.