will some one&only experienced women will tell me effect of occasional husband/wife swapping between cls.frnd?

Answer 1

Spouse swapping is a very touchy thing. Some couples are swingers and handle it very well.

When you start adding friends in the mix, it can get very tricky. There is huge potential for misunderstandings and jealousy.

If you are asking this question because your partner is wanting to experiment with swapping and you are unsure, remember it's your choice. Don't do anything you'll regret or that you're uncomfortable with. Don't let yourself be talked into or coerced into something you're not ready for.

On the other hand, if you try it and like it.. have fun!

Answer 2

We have had a few friends that we have had "relationships" with. the biggest piece of advice that I can give is to COMMUNICATE! About EVERYTHING! Some of it might hurt but you really have to talk about every thought and feeling. You have to stub out ALL jealousy. You have to know in your heart of hearts that you will be together in the end and everyone that comes into the relationship has to KNOW the same thing. You must always present a united front around "friends" so they realize that it is both or neither. I can say from experience that the sex after a "tryst" is SOOOOO much fun. TRUST! TRUST! TRUST!

Sorry `bout all the caps I am very very into this subject. Good luck to you and yours.

Answer 3

Husbands tend to handle it worse...they get all jealous and have a hard time with it even though they did it too. He will start to look at his friend like the enemy and you like a traitor. I know it's not fair but that is often how it turns out. The friendships will never be the same and neither will your marriage. If you really want to swap at least do so with people that are not friends and you will not be seeing again.

Answer 4

Swinging is recreational sex. Even the most experienced swingers tend to shy away from their "vanilla" friends as potential playmates.

We have a saying:
"Make friends of swingers, but don't try to make swingers out of friends." If you really need to feel a close "connection" with your partners, you're treading in a dangerous emotional minefield. Personally, I value my friendships too greatly to risk them should something go wrong. And by "go wrong", I mean that it's waaaaay too easy for things to get weird after sex, and too easy to allow sex to get in the way of an otherwise good friendship. I would only consider this with a friend that I would trust with my life. There are just so many ways to misunderstand one another, to doubt the purity of someone's motives, and to let your imagination run away with you. Next to your spouse, who it is difficult enough to open up to and trust to such a degree, your friends are nearly as capable of emotionally wounding you as your husband or wife.

Bottom line: I would avoid any sexual activity with friends unless all parties involved were very experienced swingers who had gained enough perspective to be able to handle such a relationship with maturity and responsibility. Otherwise, run far far away from it.

Same goes for neighbours, co-workers, employees, employers, etc. Basically, don't screw anyone who could turn your life upside down. It's just...not...worth it.

Answer 5

as long as everyone knows it is just sex it can be that way, you MUST have a strong relationship though before doing such, if there are any problems in the relationship DONT DO IT it can backfire, otherwise as long as the boundaries are set before hand it can be fun and very arousing

Answer 6

i do not want to answer as u r already biased to rcv advise only from " experienced woman" and i am an inexperienced man in this case.

but still my advise if you bother = would be "say NO" to swapping.

Answer 7

Do not invite a mess in your family life.

Answer 8

Been there, done that-my hubby ended up with feelings for this other woman and it almost cost me our marriage-TREAD LIGHTLY

Answer 9

Sorry! This sound like being unfaithful to your spouse.