Ever sense I broke up with my Baby Daddy my new found Best friend thinks she can run my life. I have been doing some dating and a couple of Booty calls here and there but nothing to major. She is trying to tell me that I am living my life wrong and that it is affecting my Daughter. She also told me that having my boyfriend stay the night after the baby is sleeping is not respecting her. Then I have my little sister turning on me because she is listening to what my friend is saying. I ask her what her problems are with me and all she can say is,"You sleep around to much". Last time I checked this was my vaginia and If I want to sleep with 2 guys(not at the same time) Then I can. I simple tell them "It's my life". Am I wrong?
2006-08-11 05:01:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My Sister does not live with me and I do have my own place with my daughter. I have a great job and I'm a good provider so what is wrong with alittle "me"time?
2006-08-11 05:18:05 · update #1
I think your best friend sees something that you don't. When you are doing something other people look at it from a different perspective. She is seeing you with these guys and she is concerned. I think you should listen and be open to her opinions, and if you still think that she is wrong then you will find out who was right in the long run. Many people don't have a best friend or even someone that would look out and tell the truth like that without sugar coating it. I love my best friend to death and if she was doing so meting that wasn't cool I would tell her. I understand what you are saying about her trying to tell you what to do. I think that she is very concerned because you broke up with your baby's daddy and she doesn't want to see it happen again. Then your sister and your best friend are worried about you sleeping around too much. There are so many diseases that go around and stuff can take you by surprise. I believe in God and I think that when he sees something that is not approving of His standards then he will eventually slow you down.
2006-08-11 05:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by sultryscorpio_pgi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your best friend is trying to speak up in the best interest of you and your child. She's probably worried about you, and worried about the effects your lifestyle might have on your daughter. It is your business who you want to sleep with, but when several people who are close to you are questioning the affect it has on you and your daughter, perhaps you should try and see their side of it. A best friend cannot run your life, but she can give you advice, even the kind that you don't want to hear. And remember, it's not just your life anymore. It's yours and your daughter's lives.
2006-08-11 12:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, try not to take too many things to heart. u have to be able to think w/ your heart. not just ur mind, not just ur emotions, but with both, in order to truly help yourself.
the way i see it, from what you've said here...is that your friend truly cares for your "well being". your health, ur daughter's health, and ur little sister's. yes, u are right. it is your vagina. *but*, you have other people living at that house. if u lived alone, u can do whatever u want and not disrespect other people. but u have a baby, and a sister, and a friend who are honestly telling you that they are not happy w/ ur behavior. instead of getting angry because you can't do what you Want, u need to take a deep breath and step back. are u listening to people who u've trusted to help you? who are there because they love you? your baby Daddy made a BABY with you, and he was obviously not good for you and couldn't stick around. but your friends and ur sister and ur baby are there, forever. because they want the best for you. are you really taking their feelings into consideration?
i understand that u don't want to hear that u are doing anything wrong...but u know what..in this case, it's not about what's right or wrong. it's about priorities, responsibilities, and positivity and healthiness. u need to do what makes you, ur sister, and ur daughter's lives HEALTHY and POSITIVE. is sleeping around really responsible? not really =T. is it healthy? Nope. not physically, and Definitely not emotionally. so u are doing "what u want", but u are not thinking about ur physical or emotional health..which is what ur friend is doing. u don't have to listen to her because she's Right or Better or Smarter, cuz that's not it. but u have to at least take into consideration that she is trying to help you get into a better situation in ur life.
u can do what u want because it is your life. but now that u have made decisions (having a baby, taking care of ur sister, depending on friends, getting rid of baby daddy, etc), u have to remember the consequences. not as a punishment, but just realistic life. are u doing all u can to make yourself a better woman, better mother, better sister, better friend? are u doing all u can to make your life Good, and people around you? if not, then u can't tell anyone that u are right or wrong. u are doing what u WANT, but u can't say that others are wrong or right, cuz you aren't right either. ur not Wrong, but ur not Right. =T
2006-08-11 12:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who does she think she is?Whoever gave her the authourity to run yr life?Wake her up & live yr life to the fullest,only then U would die with no regrets.
2006-08-11 12:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by me_imah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no OK i am 17 and i have been with 6people since i was 15 so that is not all that bad but no you are not wrong
2006-08-11 12:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋