deciding to continue a "full of love" relationship .... yes or no ?

Question

If everything goes on " very well" in your partnership , if you both understand eachother wonderfully, if any quarrel between you soon ends to forgiveness and more love , and if you feel you have many interesting things to do together, ........ would you ever hesistate to marry him IF YOUR PARTNER (he) IS 20 YEARS OLDER THAN YOU ? ..... what do you think the probable problems in future would be ? ( I am 25 years old)

Answer 1

He 45 years old, right? So, when you're 45 and he's 65, how will you feel about that? When you are 55 and possibly a widow, how will you feel about that? If he becomes impotent or sick when he's older, how will you deal with that?

But, there are no guarantees in life. You could accidentally step in front of bus, get cancer, or drown. (I certainly hope not.) And, then he'd be the one to deal with the loss or sickness.

Life is what happens while we're making other plans. If you love each other and think you can make it work, then make it work.

Here's my list of questions, FWIW.

1) Do you love and respect each other?
2) Do you make each other laugh?
3) Do you make each other feel better about yourselves?
4) Do you want to have his children and raise them with him?

If the answers to those questions are "yes", then go for it and work on it every day to keep it.

Answer 2

I really hate the whole age difference question. Love is love regardles of age. Esp if it sounds as good as you say. There are limitations brought on by the age difference obviously though. As in if you decide to commit, as you both grow old you will both be in vastly different stages in life and might possibly want different things. But if you both talk about it and if you are in love......then love.

Answer 3

you guys would fight and argue and he will probably leave you for someone more closely to his age or you will leave him for someone younger than him