Ok, this is something I've been putting some thought on, any lesbians care to give me some ideas or advise. Ok, say me and my GF would to stay together and later on marry, now obviously we can't have sex and get pregnant, but what would be some alternatives to having kids. Would adoption be a good choice as to create a family, or artificial insimination? Not that I'm worried about it now, but it's something that has crossed my mind.
2006-08-11 04:59:38 · 19 answers · asked by Fiesty Redhead 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Using artificial insemination with a sperm donor would work. Another option is adoption. I think adoption would be the more expensive option. Using a sprem donor I think is cheaper. That way allows one of you to be the birth mother and allow you two to choose the birth father possibly, like picking a close male relative of the non-birth mother.
2006-08-11 05:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not a lesbian, but I know that it is really hard to adopt a child if you are gay. The government doesn't like to let gay people adopt. Artificial insimination is the best way to go.
2006-08-11 15:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by ~sexy*girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is a great option. You are giving children the opportunity to be loved, regardless of your sexual nature, and you are raising them in a loving environment. Artificial insemination, can become very costly if you don't have luck getting pregnant with the first shot. Good luck, I hope you create a beautiful family
2006-08-11 14:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say adoption, just because it helps a kid who's already been made and there are so many of those out there, just dying for a loving home.
AI is an option, but there could be lots of legal problems down the line (your divorce *knock on wood*, the donor wanting parental rights, etc.) Plus it's expensive.
2006-08-11 12:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've thought about this so many times. I wish that there was some way of sharing the experience more. I have this pipe dream that before I decide to have children scientists will figure out how to transfer my partner's egg into my body. Then we would get a donor and I would give birth to her child (and vice versa as well (if she'd want to)...using the same donor of course). That's my dream. But, we'd have to be on different cycles (to name one of MANY issues lol). So ya, I hope that something like that will arise, because I want so badly to do that. Wouldn't it be incredible?
2006-08-11 12:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you're thinking about it now, so you can plan together. Have you asked you gf what she wants? Adoption is a very good option, but if you want the baby to be biologically yours, you can do in vitro. Have you decided who will get pregnant? Let's say it's you and you do in vitro, your gf gives her eggs and get the sperm from a donor (maybe a relative of you), then place that in you and the baby will grow in YOU. That way, your kid will be yours and your gf's, I think that's the best option.
For a more technical definition a in vitro fertilisation go to:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/In_vitro_fertilization
Good luck!
2006-08-11 12:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is the most humane thing to do. There are a lot of children in need of parents, whom you would love as much as if he/she were your own. On the other hand you have issues of genes (wanting to preserve your genes), and want your own baby, but that's your choice. Why not adopt one and have the other yourself. I know for a woman being a mother is more important than for a man.
2006-08-11 12:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult for lesbians to adopt...even the children that are less likely to be adopted. Also, it's very very expensive and even more so for a lesbian couple. Artificial insemination would probably be your best bet.
2006-08-11 15:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adoptions carries alot of negative issues such as sometimes the kid abandon the adoptive parents to search for the biological parents and never came back. some kids would feel really sad for a very long time that their natural parents won't accept them even though you love them...etc. Learn of the adoption issues and see whelther you will be able to handle them should the situation arise.
2006-08-11 20:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Langdon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the US then you can pretty much forget about adoption. I know of only one or two cases where same-sex couples sucessfully adpoted a child. It's very rare.
Insemenation however, they can do nothing about.
(sorry I'm not a lesbian, not even female, I just wanted to share that).
2006-08-11 14:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋