I´m 34, Yesterday I received a call from a woman I met before got married; telling me she wanted to go out with me, and maybe invite her girlfriend to have a 3some. This is killing me now because I´m in the dilemma: go with her but thinking about cheating my wife makes me feel bad.
2006-08-11 04:47:17 · 26 answers · asked by Bruce W. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I´m having fantasies all day long
2006-08-11 04:50:30 · update #1
Forget it!!!
Its not worth throwing away your marriage for a "romp in the sack"!!
Think of all the time and energy you have invested in the Marriage...
The love that you two have shared...
The heartbreaks that you two have gone through...
Trials and tribulations have made you grow stronger together, and bond more...
Now your willing to toss it away??
Then your wife meant absolutely nothing to you in all this time!! You will toss her away like trash? Maybe some one will pick her up, in a bar, because she is lonely because your out cheating on her, eh? You got a best friend? He maybe interested in your wife, if your not interested in keeping her!!
Dont belittle your wife because of some one in the past...its the present you live in!
And if you DO decide on this course of action, of cheating on her, at least let her know, so she can decide if she wants to keep you or not!
Who knows, maybe some one from her past is calling and she has resisted, and if she finds out "you" did it, she may go with him and find happiness in his arms...
I wish you well...
Jesse
2006-08-11 04:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put it on the other person who called you - you are in the dilemma because you allowed yourself to be. You can't control who calls you, but you can control your response to them. That door wouldn't be open, if you hadn't left it open.
There is no dilemma in my book. You are married - period. You promised to put your wife first before all others, including yourself and your desires. The fact that this is such a dilemma tells me that you haven't been doing that in the first place. If your wife was number one in your life - you wouldn't even need to write this question (in the hopes of finding people who will justify the choice you have already made). If your wife was number one - there would be no temptation, because your love life would be fulfilling. Guess what - the reason there is a 50% divorce rate is because of weak willed, dishonest, disloyal people like you. Way to stick to those vows.
2006-08-11 05:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down and REALLY think about your marriage vows. What if the shoe were on the other foot? How would you feel if your wife was the one possibly cheating on you? Is a broken heart worth an orgasm or two??
Think of your history with your wife. Think of your history with the woman you met before you got married. Why did you marry your wife to begin with? Do you love her?
I hope this helps.....
2006-08-11 04:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by BobbieB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you know all of the women in yahoo are gonna jump all over you. If you want the truth. I know marriage sucks. Your bored as hell and your hormones are racing at 90 miles per hour, since thoes women called. There is no way to stop temptation it will come at you from all sides. If you have kids, look into there eyes, and ask yourself that question again. as for me ill be going to my doctor to get some viagra cause ill be in for a looong night. In other words do what u believe is right for you.
2006-08-11 05:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the fantasies, but don't act on them. The moment you call that whore back, the cheating has begun. See it for what it is: this chick knows you are married, and still persues you. WHAT A B ITCH. And you....you took an oath. If you aren't man enough to hold to it, then you are not only a gutless hunk of crap, but you will be pemanently classified as pond scum.
The choice is obvious.
2006-08-11 04:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are even considering it! and do you really think you have what it takes to satisfy two women? Obviously she doesn't think so that's why she wants to bring a you some help. And if you decide to cheat on your wife does that mean who ever you cheated with will now be the one doing your laundry, house cleaning, cooking your meals and do everything else your wife does for you? or are you willing to just do it all yourself?
2006-08-11 05:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married, there is no reason to act on this fantasy person you are talking about. Marriage is a commitment...and if you already "feel bad" then my take on it is that you would feel much much worse if you did it, and so would your wife when she found out! And she will find out, it's called intuition...Don't do it..
2006-08-11 04:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r married, keep that feeling. the last thing u want to do is hurt ur wife. i know about that kind of temptation but my heart will never let me cheat on my wife. it's not worth it. respect ur wife and vows remain committed to her.
2006-08-11 05:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself of all the reasons you are with your wife. All the things you love about her and how heartbroken you'd both be to throw all that away. If thinking about cheating makes you feel bad, then don't. It's obvious you love your wife. It's normal to have those thoughts, but you have to ask yourself, is It worth it to throw away your past and future with her for one night??
2006-08-11 05:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by Raven's tear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL!
Yeah right, some woman out of NO WHERE calls and offers you up a 3some! You've been watching too many pornos.
Keep dreaming, loser!
2006-08-11 04:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋