my man no longer turned me on after I got pregnant, and still now that the baby is three months old. I can't stand for him to touch me in any kind of way, nor give me those I WANT SOME looks. I haven't given him any in the past 5-6 months. It seems as though my baby has killed my sex drive. DO YOU THINK THIS WILL CHANGE? HOW NORMAL IS THIS?
2006-08-11 04:13:28 · 38 answers · asked by SHERON S. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
can't help you. ask a doctor.
2006-08-11 04:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What some people class as normal others may not. It may not be the case for all but i think i am pretty normal and yes i felt the same way as you and have three children. Your sex drive will come back its just a matter of time, Some women loose their sex drive due to post natal depression, stress or just being tired. Others may feel that they are carrying a little too much weight after having baby and feel a little uncomfortable of the way they look so don't worry about it your sex drive will come back just need patience. The more you let it bother you the worse it will become.
2006-08-11 04:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what causes it, although it very likely could be a hormone level. I experienced the same thing and it didn't come back. Your partner will have to take the lead in this in helping you out alot with the baby so that you can have some "me" time so that you don't feel that your only role in life is a mommy now. As hard as it is, get a trusted person or family member to look after the baby for a couple of hours and make a 'date' together. Try to do some of the things you used to enjoy as a couple before baby arrived on the scene. Good luck, it's frustrating, I know.
2006-08-11 04:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, yes, I am sure that this is normal! Some woman just go through this and some don't! Don't worry about it and try to take your mind off sex altogether! You should try to do some things together that are in no way sexual! You have to try to remember the things that you like about him and try to remember that you are not crazy or weird and that sometimes, a woman just loses that desire for a while! If you and your man love each other he will understand and he will not push you and you should not push yourself either! But I also think that you should tell your doctor, because he could be related to post par-tum depression! Hope this helps and that everything works out for you! God bless!
2006-08-11 04:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by iLoveDawnDawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be psychological. Remember all the mood swings you went through during the first couple months of the pregnancy? Your hormones still need balancing, but if it's already been over 6 months since the baby has been born you need to see a doctor. Especially if there is any kind of regret or depression you've undergone during the course of the pregnancy.
2006-08-11 04:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have entered a new stage in your life where you are a Mother first before anything else. The one thing that would kill the romance in a relationship is not being able to do the fun things that you were doing when you first meant. Try going on fun dates and bring the romance back into your relationship. Once the romance is there, the sex will come later.
2006-08-11 04:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could just be exhausted by being a new Mommy. Have him help you out with the baby and pick up things around the house. Try getting Grandma or someone you can trust to watch the baby so you and your husband can have a romantic evening together. Maybe you can get that spark back.
2006-08-11 04:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very individualistic.
For example, my wife had a terrible second pregnancy and it totally and completely killed her desire for sex.
That was 15 years ago.
It could be the stress of the baby and you may still be suffering from some post-partum depression.
You have to look within to see what it is that irritates you about the sex and what you can both do to change the circumstances.
2006-08-11 04:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This problem is normal, it happen to my wife.
The doctor said that we had to work through it.
Believe it or not by having sex, she said that if we got a baby sitter (your mom & dad) to watch the baby over night. Then we should go out to have dinner catch a movie, have a few drinks. then go home and slowly start with foreplay and then ease into sex, but we had to have sex that night no matter how much she didn't want to. Sure enough slowly but surely she became more interested in sex. I hope this works for you.
2006-08-11 04:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by captianpr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to recall THE good times with him.Probably U r exhausted taking care of yr newborn baby that sex is a turn-off.Talk to him & maybe something will come out of it.If he DIY is ok temporarily but on the long run he might find a substitute & that would be something U will regret.
2006-08-11 04:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by me_imah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got about a week left before he finds someone else,im being serious,imagine what he is thinking,or how he is feeling,you could possibly ruin your marriage over this,men have feelings to,its not always about you,your actually selfish,and shouldnt be surprised when you start finding phone numbers around,i understandhaving a baby is major and life changing,but it is for him as well,and ummmm no it wont change by being on yahoo answers and not learning what the problem is ,i just hope for your sake hes still faithfull at this point,i wouldnt be,id actually think you were being unfaithfull
2006-08-11 04:20:41 · answer #11 · answered by mesmokyweed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋