my wife of 2 year but we have been together for 10 years total just told me that she thinks she may be gay. She has had these feeling for a long time but has never acted on them. I want to be supportive but at the same time I am dying on the inside. What do i do?
2006-08-11 04:05:33 · 22 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my wife of 2 year but we have been together for 10 years total just told me that she thinks she may be gay. She has had these feeling for a long time but has never acted on them. I want to be supportive but at the same time I am dying on the inside. This is not about her wanting to have a threesome its about here not knowing if she is gay or straight. What do i do?
2006-08-11 04:26:54 · update #1
Just keep doing what you been doing I think she is a very brave woman for telling you this, And you to for handling it the way you are stay with her through this.
2006-08-16 00:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman telling a man she thinks she's gay can be devastating to a man's ego. Find out if she still has feelings, desires, especially sexually for you. Maybe you guys just need to try some new things - go to a drive in movie and make out in the car, pretend you are a teenager and act on premiscuous acts you would never dare try now.
2006-08-11 11:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First she needs to understand her feelings are formed, and she may have formed them long ago and forgot the incident. People do not always remember what happened as a child and they could be having post traumatic stress issues from memories forgotten.
Did you ask her if she remembers when she formed a sexual attraction on same gender? Can she remember? People are not born gay.
2006-08-14 14:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As when yu marry her , the committment between you together was that yu are a male & she is a female . Now yu say that she thinks that she is a gay . So your marriage -committment is now changed with as a men & wife has Ended . Yu have the right to divorce or get seperated no-one can blame you .
2006-08-11 11:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by myxz_heart_broken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has to be a real eye opener.Well you can let her experiment and see if that resolves it. Sometimes the fantasy is not the same in reality. Maybe you should not panic let her try it . If she really does just want to be with women then maybe it is time for you to consider other options. If she has a gf then I guess your entitled to one also. good luck
2006-08-11 11:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by jeff7241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tough question to answer. I can only suggest you let her go and find herself. If she truly is gay, let her go because she will never be happy if she is forced to live a lie for the rest of her life. And you won't be happy either.
2006-08-16 03:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threesome!
2006-08-11 11:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by Beware the fury of a patient man 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take her to a strip club, get her a table dance. If she likes it have that be part of your foreplay. The trouble with inviting a third person in is they may decide to make it a twosome and leave you stroking yourself.
2006-08-11 11:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by venicerp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask another girl to join!!!! also, make sure her feelings are true. she might just feeling this way. Give her time to figure out what she wants!
2006-08-11 11:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Lou Diamond Phillips, he's been there. Good luck.
2006-08-11 11:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋