i am a bi-sexual girl (otherwise known as greedy) and engaged to a wonderful man, but i'm finding the ony thing that turns me on at the moment is lesbian hentai an he is getting stroppy with me what do i do to intergrate the two things without hurting his feelings, he doesnt like hentai or lesbians... help?
2006-08-11 03:10:04 · 12 answers · asked by Myriad666 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
This could actually be a great opportunity to discover (before things get unmanageably messy) whether or not you should really marry this man. If he cannot accept your sexuality (and by the way, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your sexuality, so far as I can see) then in a very deep and essential sense he does not really love you (even though he may think he loves you based on his feelings of attraction, or whatever). He is only in love with a certain image of you (an image most likely fueled by a great deal of projection), and in the long run his love of this image will not sustain either you or him in marriage. It may seem painful to dump him, but if in fact he is only in love with an image, then in the long run you will save both yourself and him from even greater pain by calling off the wedding. On the other hand, if after a deep conversation he comes to realize that monogamy is not really a good option for you (since he can’t fulfill your desire for women, you should reserve for yourself the right to have women lovers), and if he can find some way to adjust his attitude so that he actually ENJOYS the idea of you being with girlfriends, then perhaps you can work out some sort of non-monogamy (some variation on swinging or polyamory). Whatever you do, don’t sell yourself short by accepting a monogamous commitment because, no matter what you might tell yourself at a given moment, in the long run you are really not well-suited to life-long monogamy.
And by the way, I am not suggesting that bisexual people cannot be monogamous. They are just as capable of sustaining monogamy as anyone. But some people (no matter what their sexual orientation) are just not well-suited to long-term monogamy, and my intuitions tell me that you are one of these people. I could be wrong, but that is my impression. Non-monogamy is a wonderful option for those who are willing to venture outside of the lines so neatly drawn by most repressive and prudish societies.
2006-08-11 04:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by eroticohio 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the 2 of you need to have a long talk because he's knows your bi and he needs to understand that being bi means you want to be with him yet you also want to be with women. So if he loves you he will except the fact that you need to be with another woman and he would understand thats it's not the same as being with a man there for if he loves you he would let you get it on with a woman.
2006-08-11 03:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi and with a man what i do is still look at woman and DVD about woman but if you don't feel like to be with your bloke i would really say finish with him if you want to be with a woman
2006-08-11 04:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by munchie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he can accept it or you move on.... try letting him join at least for a watch if you care about him otherwise make a choice him or the lesbians.
2006-08-11 03:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?!?! What kind of a guy are you marrying that doens't like lesbians? That is crazy talk! Maybe he is gay and doens't know how you tell you....hmmmm...
2006-08-11 03:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Zef_66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are not ready for marriage,,,the word monogamous comes to mind,,,! You can make love to one,while THINKING of another to enhance what you feel,,,! hope that helps.
2006-08-11 07:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by Angie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a Doc, you are really confused ! What is wrong with you woman?
2006-08-11 07:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by jdfnv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooops! Only yourself can help here! Decide what is your wish to be!
2006-08-11 03:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We LOVE bisexual girls.
2006-08-11 03:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need a bit of domestic violence
2006-08-11 04:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋