What do you do when your boyfriend and your sister get into an arguement?

Question

Okay last night my boyfriend called me and my sister was over. So I was on the phone and she was saying stuff like you not going with him saturday we already got plans. Then he said let me talk to her. I told them both that it was'nt that serious but he stilln wanted to talk to her. When I gave her the phone they started cursing eachother out. And now he telling me that I dont love him cause I let someone disrespect him. I did tell her that was dead wrong. He wanted her to apologize. I told him shes grown all I can do is tell her how I feel about the situation I cant make her apologize. Please help me with this.

Answer 1

I agree with you, let them fight it out. If he carries on like that let him go, but if your sis does this often speak to her.

Answer 2

You can't make your sister apologize. You told her how you feel about it and that's all you can do. It would be best not to bring your BF and your sister in contact with each other. They obviously don't like each other. In the future, don't give the phone to your sister. That was a set up for disaster. Neither your sister or your BF have the right to tell you what to do. Make separate time for each of them. It's hard when your BF doesn't get along with your family because you love him and your family. Just remember that your sister will be your sister forever. BFs come and go. Your BF sounds a bit controlling. He didn't need to speak with your sister because common sense would tell him that no good would come of that confrontation, yet he demanded to. He is also using a classic tactic of a dominating man by telling you that you don't love him because you let someone disrespect him. In actuality, he brought this on himself. You did not order him to speak with your sister. Also, a controlling man can not stand an assertive woman and your sister may have a little bit too much fire for his taste. Does he cuss you out? call you names? tell you where to go and how long to be there? constantly monitor your location? tell you who to be friends with? grab you? push you? isolate you from family and friends? dictate your appearance? criticize you? These are all signs of a battering/abusive relationship. Don't freak out, but do give this some thought. Don't lose yourself in a man. Be your own woman. Your BF should have trusted that you were an adult and quite capable of making your own decision about what you would do on Saturday. He is not your father and if he was, you're grown. (I'm assuming.) This is just a small part of a larger problem. BE CAREFUL. Don't let your BF come between you and your sister. Just tell your sister that you can and will handle things with your BF. Then do it!

Answer 3

Blood is thicker than water. Dump the Boyfriend if he won't apologize and promise to get along with your sister.

Answer 4

why are you stressing he should have never ask to talk to her in the first place so he was liking for that to happen and NEVER put NO man before your family so don't let him say you let your sister disrespect him because he stared it do not hurt your head and if she doesn't want to say sorry then she shouldn't have to she should be the one to say sorry

Answer 5

first of all your sister is not the boss of you. you have your own mind and can make your own decisions. second, you should not have given your sister the phone. you should have told your boyfriend that you would call him back, sat down and talked to your sister and told her that she should not get in the middle of you and your boyfriend's business. i'm not saying that it's your fault. all i'm saying is that you should never involve family into your private personal romantic life.

Answer 6

well u could have your boyfriend and your sister meet up and tell them at the same how time u feel about the situation. that how do they think it would feel if they where in your shoes