Do second time marriages work better than first time marriages? If yes, why?

Answer 1

im on my 2nd ......you dont make the same mistakes twice and i married for the right reasons this time....because i love him...........aaaaawwwwww

Answer 2

No second , third , fourth & so on marriages don't ever work out because you always will have the bagage from the other marriage coming into the new. Cowards & quiters are the ones who takes the easy way out from marriage by getting divorce. They have the fear of stiking out stop them from having the true wife and the true family, God ORDAINED them to have for their WHOLE lifetime NOT for 5years , or 14 years , or 35 years and so on. The fact remains second, third, fourth , & etc marriages still are living in adultery . Marriage is what it is until death. ONCE married , ALWAYS married until death. God is NOT a God of compromise. If we are free from our ORDAINED lifetime mates than God would not say what he said in Mark 10 : 11 - 12 . The marriage vow is not just words we just say . A vow is a vow. God takes vows very seriously so we should too. Marriage should not come into lightly because of the deadly consequences in the after life. God would forgive that person who commited adultery when that person truly respents and goes back to the first marriage which was ordained in the first place. Our days were ordained before one was to be before we were ever born { look at Psalm 139 : 16 }. Listen to your conscience & do what is right. There is no pillow so soft as a clear conscience !!! I do NOT believe in divorce at all !!! My husband is the one who wanted the divorce not me 5 years ago. My husband could care less about our 3 kids & me. If my husband cares deeply down in his heart for all of us , he would not be where he is now ............ with his girlfriend who was my X - best friend. It is the hard truth too. Oh no one fells out from love , they fell out from commitment. Everyone of us has a responsibility to live right. Hope this helps everyone of you to see the truth here. It is your decision to make.

Answer 3

there is not a clearcut answer here. too often we follow the same pattern (comfortable) and end up in the same situation.
Best thing is to be careful, take a long long at what you are doing and really be hard on yourself as to the same characteristics or diffences in the potential next in line. since you were married once this is by itself a more comfortable place to be. It is too easy to put on the some old pair of jeans that are about ready to fall apart, if you get my drift.
There are some great books out there that will "challenge" the new relationship and sometimes this can be painful. Worth the efffort to find out now, rather than a messy later....

Answer 4

You can't say yes for certain!
Logically they should. I mean, you would have learnt a thing or two; known your limits and above all what hurts.So obviously you would not want to repeat the same mistakes again.

Now you are only human, with qualities and faults; strengths and weaknesses; and they'll always be there. Not perfect you know.
So I think that if you are prepared to make sacrifices and accept that things will never be perfect; you already have more chances to have a good marriage.
Now what about the partner?
Provided they are in the same state of mind!

I think for my part that never taking something or someone for granted is the best way of keeping them alive, interested and interesting.
So if I marry again, hopefully it all be the last time!

Answer 5

Many 2nd marriages end in divorce as well. But they can be VERY successful.
You have got to have learned from the first one. Usually the second time around, you've had a few knocks from life, not quite so starry-eyed, more mature; know yourself a bit better, & where you want to end up; what you're willing to put up with & what you're not.

But unless you see where the first one went wrong & what you did to contribute to the problem (& yes, we all do) & what you need to do to correct your behavior....it will be repeated. Same dance, different partner.

Answer 6

Some of them do because you learn from the mistakes in your first marriage.

Some of them don't because the people rush and get married before they learn to deal with their own problems, thus they take them into the marriage.

You need to be single at least two years to raise the chances of a second marriage succeeding.

Answer 7

not all are better or worse. hopefully you learn from your mistakes but then again, you usually have kids from the first marriage and it gives a whole new set of rules sometimes.

my partner and i have been together 8 years and not married, but we both have been married and divorced twice.

its the same as marriage but without the paper. i can say that when his hers and our kids are involved, it does change a lot of things.

the second time around, the kids are attached to the second partner and you are more inclined to work things out because its not only you or your husband that gets hurt, its the kids too.

Answer 8

Hopefully yes!!! i got married the first time and was very naive at the age of 19. It was a total disaster. I am now 31 and me and my partner are hoping to get married next year. I think its all about experience on life love and sex. Ive got two children froma past relationship and you live and you learn.I think you learn to appreciate each other more and learn from past mistakes.I now know what love,respect and forever is all about.

Answer 9

I believe they do because normailly by the time you marry again you are more mature. You also know how to handle situations differently. Sometimes the first time you married you got married for the wrong reason...to get out of the house....to have a baby....but not because you were in love.

Answer 10

YES they do. you should have learned what not to do from the first one. my second marriage is much better. lasting alot longer too.

Answer 11

They can do, it all depends. Mine is different from my first but still better in terms of it being more secure. I still get on with my ex and her new husband and even though my now wife was very nervous at first she likes them too. It really all depnds on the people involved and how much they are willing to compromise.