I'm about 2 weeks away from the proposal. She was married real young out of high school, married until about 23, and was divorced about 6 years ago. We love each other very much. But she still talks about once a month with her ex-husband. Should i be concerned about this? They never had children so there is no reason to continue this relationship with him in my opinion. She claims they are still friends, even though they dont hang out. I dont know if i should be wary of this or if I am just being crazy, but it bothers me a bit. What should i do?
2006-08-11 02:30:46 · 5 answers · asked by john k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you have a right to let it bother you. But look at it this way. She has been divorced for 6 years right? Did she talk to him like this before you guys hooked up? If she has talked to him like this for the last 6 years then I would say you have nothing to worry about. Remember she is with you and not him. She lives with you so I would say she wants to be with you. There is nothing wrong with them being friends I guess. You need to talk to her and tell her that it bothers you. Let her know how it makes you feel. What do they talk about? Does she talk to him while you are around or does she talk to him when your gone? I would say try to let it go. Love her and show her respect and she should have no reason to leave you for someone else. There is a reason why he is her ex so support her. Good luck
2006-08-11 02:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she married so young, she may actually be just friends with her ex. They grew up together in the marriage.
I wouldn't worry if she is talking to him only once a month. That is reasonable to just check on the ex and see what is going on with him. After all, they don't hang out or have other contact.
Ask her point blank how she feels about you compared to him.
2006-08-11 02:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally understandable to not like the fact that she's still in contact with her ex. You need to have a talk with her and explain to her that it makes you uncomfortable and see how she would feel if you kept in contact with your ex's. It really is probably harmless, but she should understand your feelings and get over the fact that you really don't like that and be willing to change. Relationships are all about compromise, if there isn't anything there and she doesnt' hang out with him she really won't be missing anything by having one less person to talk to on the phone.
2006-08-11 02:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by travelgrl85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
let be mature here,
ask her in a nice and calm manner
ask her, what is the situation with her x hubby
tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable
(she may ask u why) answer come out with something clever
i have to be honest if it was me i will handle it like this in a mature manner
but honesty, ask yourself this question why will keep in contact with your ex>?
there r ex in ur life that u could be friends with, those are the ones u didnt have much feeling for, the exes that u had great feelings for that almost hard to develop a friendship cuz the feelings are still there
also i have female friends and lots of them are in relationship and they keep in contact with there ex because they still have feelings for them and are waiting for the right time or the right move
2006-08-11 02:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a big deal, they were probably good friends before and when things didn't work out with a long term relationship it was mutual and wanted to remain friends...you've got nothing to worrry about and you shouldn't tell her who she can and cannot talk to, my gf RAGES whenever someone tries to tell her that and i've learned never to do it
2006-08-11 02:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by mtugodfath3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋