My son is 12 years old and has been growing an afro. I always told him that if he took care of his hair he could keep it anyway he wanted. He has been keeping very good care of his hair and it looks nice. But I dont like it. How can I tell him to cut his hair?
2006-08-11 02:13:32 · 20 answers · asked by Amy Renee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
This is a hard one..because you probably want to encourage him to express his own sense of style and individuality...but you KNOW his hair doesn't look good. I would say...just be honest with him. Give him some examples in magazines that might look good on him and see what he thinks. Thankfully, he's still young enough to listen to his mother! *wink*
Best of luck.
2006-08-11 02:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I have 3 sons,14,17 and 19. Over the years I have looked at some pretty funky hair doos between the three. My youngest just cut his hair down to a bur after growing it for about three years. It was longer than my hair. His hair was cool,I loved it and now I miss it !!!!! Who cares what they do with their hair !!! Is he a good kid ? Does he do good in school ? Stay out of trouble,for the most part !!!!! Let him grow his hair how he wants. Its his hair. He is just expressing himself in a way that is totally harmless to him and everyone else. Who knows,some day he may lose his hair, hopefully not, but hey,it happens.So let him enjoy it, have fun with it. Compared to many other things in life that your son could be doing at 12,growing his hair long in an afro is definatly not something I would be fretting about at all !!!!!!
2006-08-11 09:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by crazartgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break your own rule. You can offer the next time your in town together to get him a cut and style if he wants. If he asks why, tell him you just thought it would be nice and somethiing you would like to do for him. If he asks if you like his hair the way it is, be honest but also encourage him by telling him you won't go back on your word and that he has done well with his hair. School is starting and he may change his mind on his own once he sees what most are doing.
2006-08-11 09:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure your son wont like it if u tell him u do not like his hair. He will end up rebelling more. Since he has been keeping a gd care of his hair, let him continue growing his hair. Teens his age will soon get bored with his current hairstyle and he will cut it sooner or later.
2006-08-11 09:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Masquerade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it looks nice, he takes care of it, and you told him before he could keep it anyway he wanted if he took care of it... leave him alone, he is just 12 he is just trying to be different, to have a personal mark, children at that age want to be different and have control of their look. Thank God he doesn't want a tattoo, a piercing, or dye his hair blue, eventually he will cut it.
2006-08-11 09:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by carolina n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight up. Just say that you will buy him anything he wants(of course something that you can both agree on) so he gets convinced.If he recieves allowance, then boost it up by a couple of $.If that doesn't work, then just say the bad effects of having an afro and the good(tell him like 10 bad effect and no good ones).Good luck with asking!
2006-08-11 09:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
loock you made a mistake by telling him he could keep his hair the way he wanted it so now your backing out. Your his mother you have the final say he might be upset for a couple of days, but he'll get over it. Am fifteen in the ninth grade in a computer class typing this now, and belive me my mother said the same things but then she changed her mind and hade me cut it. Yes, i was upset but i got over it and i hope your son can to. I hope this helps in any possibly way good luck miss.
2006-08-11 09:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him
Which maybe he knows you want him too so he doesnt want to do it but just recommend that it would be the best thing to do and he doesnt want to start off a school year with all the girls thinking he looks like he needs a hair cut
2006-08-11 09:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by mocha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his hair is his way of stating his independence & personality- my 10 yr old has worn his hair in mo-hawks, shaved, long surfer style....who cares in the grand scheme of things...it's only hair....he could be doing alot worse things to show his independence and personality. Pretty soon he'll out grow the afro stage- but if you fight him on it, he'll only keep the style to get to you. ;)
2006-08-11 09:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother - he won't listen to you anyway.
Besides, you said he could keep it any way he wanted if he took care of it, and he's taking care of it. So why go back on your word?
2006-08-11 09:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋