Is this a nice way of dumping me?

Question

I'm american,he is Austrian,started out as a great friendship,ended up in love,he treated me like his princess and now I hardly ever here from him,says he is just really busy,he doesnt treat me like he used to,makes excuses for everything and turns it all to be my fault,what do you americans think

Answer 1

Forget about him. There are plenty of other guys out there.

Answer 2

Never, but never, say you are dumped. Lond distance relationships are hard. Could be that he has found a distraction here and is losing interest in keeping the lines of communication open. He probably really likes you a lot, but you are just not here and someone else is.

Be upfront about it. Save face and your pride, because he obviously is too chicken to be honest with you. Tell him that you just don't think things are working out, you understand, and you wish him luck. That way, you have the last say and technically...he's the one who's dumped.

Don't waste any more time than that on him. Find a nice guy near you and enjoy yourself!

Answer 3

wow....i have the same relationship problem right now too...if i were you, i would just back off (not saying you were crowding him) and by that i mean let him do what he wants because when the school year comes back around and you two will see eachother more often, he will go back to normal and treat you like his little princess. If he doesn't change, you really need to talk to him to see if something happened that made him upset or something. Good Luck

Answer 4

If you are uneasy with this type of behavior, and if you can't communicate your feelings to Mr. Austria, bow out gracefully. It's not likely your headed down the same path, at least at the moment. Remember that you are special, and if he snoozes, he looses....... Try meeting up with friends one or two nights a week, even try solo once at your favorite club or eatery. It's amazing when your find out what life has in store for you if you just give your self some well deserved credit and have some fun.

Answer 5

well i dont think its americans vs austrillians i think u mean like for american women.well ive been through this. 9 times outta 10 sumthing is goin wrong n its probably the relationships.how is it all of a sudden he is busy not unless he has a busy job. i mean if i was u i would talk to him and find out wat is going on wit him. but mostly the reason why he is actin like this is because the relationship is comin to an end but look it was fun while it lasted so move on u desreve sum1 whoes worth ur time........ and he doesnt know how to tell u that punk. best luck

Answer 6

Yeah the others are correct. This is just a supid way people do things instead of being kind and direct. If they would just say this is not working or I do not want to go out anymore, but I wish you the best and let you move on and heal then it would be easier instead of confusing people and upsetting them for an extended period of time. Just let them go and heel. Unfortunately sometimes we have to create our own closure. It works and then you can just do things you enjoy and eventually you will meet someone else when you will heel and when it is natural.

Answer 7

Sounds exactly Like a friend of mine who actually had a kid with an Austrian man, was treated like a pricess and then he just started ignoring her. I think it is an Austrian thing. Sorry for your experience and know it is not you.

Answer 8

Seems like he's avoiding you. Not a good sign. Probably moved on or doesn't want to be a part of the relationship anymore. To me he's being a coward. I mean if he doesn't want to be with you anymore, why not come out and say it instead of avoiding you. Girl, you deserve better than a coward. Don't waste your time on someone who isn't willing to waste their time on you. There are plenty of nice guys out there just waiting for a chance to get to know a nice girl. Give those guys a chance and not this loser.

Answer 9

Well, there is not a nice way to dump someone, is there?

If he just said it was over, you would want to know why, and then there would be hurtful reasons.

So, he's giving you the chance to figure out that things are changing, while leaving the door open for friendship.

Answer 10

You don'lt tell us if yours is an online friendship or if you have actually met and did things together. Still, I if it troubles you so, I think you should ask him outright and clear the air. He might have met someone else, he might have gotten cold feet with you and thought the relationship was moving too fast, or he doesn't even realize you feel neglected. The only way you can find out is to ask.

Answer 11

Like the ole' saying goes "The truth hurts"...Well darling, it looks like he's found someone new. But he just doens't have the balls to come out and say that he's done with you. This is his way out, he treats you like this and he's expecting you to let him go. If you love him, go over there and figure out the problem, otherwise, move on. No-one deserves to be treated like that! Good Luck!