divorce help?

Question

i have been married 40 years. just can't be with her any longer. when i leave she gets insane. comes to were i'm staying and begs me to come back.help

Answer 1

hell you may as well stay life is about over anway

Answer 2

Is blackmail. Just leave and change your number, Make sure that she is taken care of while you are getting a divorce. Tell here family so they give her the support she needs. Get a Po Box and send your correspondence there , also give it that to her as well to communicate with you. Also tell her that communication from now on would be though yoru lawyer only.
Tell her that is over and that no matter how much she cries, you will not be back.
If you don;' stop the comunication and keep on coming back out of pity then you will never move son since she knows you will be back after a bid dramatic display of tears.
Breaking up is hard and divorce is even worse. She will be emotional and she will try her best to keep you, so that is natural., but if you keep on giving in, you both will continie l;iving a lie and living in hell.
Stick to your guns and separate so you can both think clearly.

Good luck

Answer 3

I am sorry that a 40 year marriage cannot be repaired.

How many times have you left her? She should get the idea by now. Why does she act insane? Is she afraid of being by herself? Does she have income? Can she make it on her own?

Maybe you can help her make her plans for the future, or maybe you can help her find someone who will. How about taking her to counseling so you have someone helping you explain that you are leaving and not coming back.

Is it bad enough to need a restraining order to keep her away? Is there anyone you can call to come get her and calm her down?

I wish you luck in dealing with this, as well as starting a new life.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are the one who wants the divorce more than she does.but if it is what you really want then if she turns up begging for you to come back try taking out a domestic violence order as she is harassing you and that is illegal at then she has to be of good nature or possibly stay about 100 meters away from you.if you are unsure about wanting to divorce her then you should look deep inside yourself and ask yourself if this is really what you want and if it is don't hesitate about filing for the divorce but please just take a long hard look inside yourself and be sure you are not throwing away 40 years of marriage over nothing.

Answer 5

Really look hard at why you want out. 40 years is a lot to walk away from, but not that rare. both of you should get some counseling as to what is going on. There had to something there for you to stay together for that long.
If you ultimately do decide that it is time to split the sheets, do so in a dignified manner. don't go out to screw your spouse as there is a lot of stuff there and together to resolve. do as much without attorneys as possible it will save money and likely a lot of heart ache. it is not fun or easy but do what you need to do.

Answer 6

Get thee to a lawyer! have the lawyer to take out a case to make her have to stay away from you.You can (in some states) even charge her with stalking you. I'd suggest some divorce counseling for the 2 of you also.A divorce is the death of a marriage,and one tends to grieve.Good luck.

Answer 7

too bad.you have to understand 40 yrs is a long time for her to adjust.try to explain as to why you cant stand her if that doesnt work get the cops involved!

Answer 8

after 40 yrs?!! u mite as well stay with her now. its gonna be real hardto find some1 new....unless u already have. and f thats the case, leave her and dont tell her where ur at

Answer 9

Don't tell here where you're staying.