3 months and going. is this possible?

Question

My wife and I haven't had sex in over 3 months due to some relationship problems, etc. The storm has passed but we still aren't having sex. My wife claims that she does not masterbate, that she just doesn't think about sex because she's so stressed out from work and our relationship. Should I believe that for 3 months she has had NO desire to be pleasured sexually or that she isn't acting on her desires??

Answer 1

That is entirely possible. Women can go months to years without having sex and without any desire for intimacy.

Answer 2

Before your relationship gets to the point of no return, you should really talk to her. But before you have this talk, you should think a lot, and relax. Don't stress and try to be as reasonable and as kind to her as you can when you two have this talk. Prepare yourself. Sit down with her, fix a cup of tea.

Then you could tell her that you don't think that that is normal and that you two should be able to make love to each other. Tell her how much you love her and how you know that a healthy sex life is important in a marriage. Tell her you're there for her and will do anything to help. Help her open up with you.

She will try to avoind the subject, she'll avoid talking about it just as she's avoiding to have sex with you. But you have to be kind and firm at the same time, to be able to get through to her. Make her understand, without scaring her, that if this goes on, your relationship may turn into something other than a marriage. Tell her you've been reading about it (read about it).

Make commitments to spend more time together. Go out on dates.

I know all this because I've gone through the same thing this past few weeks. I don't know why it happened, and my husband didn't talk to me in a way to get through to me, and we let this drag on until he decided to ask for a divorce.

It was only then that I realized how far this had gone. I'm now fighting to get him back, because we love each other, and this (the lack of sex due to lack of time, of "perfect conditions", etc) can be worked out. I truly believe in it. I'm not giving up on it. And I hope you and your wife can do the same.

My best wishes to you two!!

Answer 3

belive it or not women are not like men besides the obvious anatomical differances we view intamacy differantly and depending on what the marital problems you had this may well turn her off sex for a long stretch the vast majority of women dont place the upmost importance on the phisical aspect of a relationship they cultivate the emotional aspects and im just geussing but if i had to geuss you cheated i may be wrong but i think im right men tend to want to prove their love by sex especially when they have been caught cheating if this is the case you may be celibat for some time,this will be for two reasons
1.she wants to see if you will do it again
2.if prior to the incident if you had sex on a regular basis,shes trying to prove a point ,because if you were getting it often and you still cheated it becomes emoitional cheating noy just phisical
so if thats the case you better grease up youre palm bro youre gonna need it.

Answer 4

Three months without sex, woa...i feel bad for you but I have a feeling you did something pretty bad.

I'll tell you something, she is lying, there is no way she's not masturbating at least.....or maybe she's giving you the same problem you were giving her.

I have a very stressful job and I still can't go longer than a week without any kind of sexual contact, either with my husband or with my hands.

Do some research......

Answer 5

you haven't any longer have been given lots time yet then you definitely can develop lots on your 32 minutes as you weren't in shape once you ran it. Run 3 miles 5 situations situations a for the duration of the 1st week, you would be working 5 situations each and every week this month. you need to get an excellent sort of relax and sleep this month because you would be putting an excellent sort of stress on your physique. the 2d week you will run 4 miles on sooner or later, run a mile in 9:40 two times on yet another day, with a three minute relax in between the two miles and 3 miles on the different 3 days. The third week 5 miles on sooner or later, a mile in 9:40 three times with a three minute relax in between the three miles and 3 miles on the different 3 days. The fourth week you will leave 2 days relax earlier the three mile you need to run and run a mile in 9:40 three times with a three minute relax in between the three miles two times. in case you run the different day that week, basically make it a three mile run. solid success!

Answer 6

Not everyone has to be sexually stimulated. How do you think nuns and priests live. In times of stress and being busy sex may be the last thing on one's mind.

Answer 7

Yes you can women are like that one thing bothering them will affect quite alot. TAke her out dancing, a movie dinner whatever it is that she enjoys doing, pamper her make her feel loved no matter what maybe she just needs to be reminded what she is missing and be very patient if she still doesn't feel like it just be very very good to her and try and understand what's bothering her at work.

Answer 8

Oh yes, you can definitely believe her. Stress changes the balance of hormones, and she may not have the correct balance to "feel like it". She really needs to talk to her doctor to see if this is a form of depression.

Answer 9

I can't imagine it personally, but it is possible. Some women (and men) lose their sex drive for many reasons including stress, exhaustion, medications, etc.

Answer 10

Believe it, many women have low libidos.

Don't pressure her, be patient she will come around.

Women don't feel like giving sex when there is trouble in the realationship.