If a wife keeps telling lies about emails to and from another man, should I leave her?

Answer 1

Leave over cyber sex ? Ask her what she is missing from your relationship....

Answer 2

if she is being protectful of you not reading them then there is something she is hiding, otherwise you reading them should not even be a problem. She should know that keeping things from you is tearing away at the trust you have built for her. If you ask her "Honey can I read those emails from other men" and she says "NO", then i would not push on reading her emails, and sit her down and let her know that this is bothering you, if she clams up on the defense and wants to guard her privacy from you, then you should ask for a separation. Yes, getting separated just because of a few emails, but ask her the same question, if getting separated because of a few emails see how important it is to her. then make your decision.

Answer 3

You may be looking in the wrong place. Her need to be secretive and illusive about the net means that something is wrong at home. Why does she fee a need to do this? It is inappropriate. YOu can not tell her to stop it, won't work. She will just go more underground.
If you can get hold of the content of the emails (yep one side of me) then you may be able to get more of a handle on what is going on. If it on the romantic side, time to get to counseling or then hit the road. Try to stay first and get her attention. Be the romantic she is looking for. Marriage is a lot of work. Make it fun.
Ultimatly, you may need to consider your exit stategy. good luck

Answer 4

THIS IS WHAT YOU CALL EMAIL. GUYS ALWAYS FORGET WOMAN ARE HUMAN TOO DOESN'T MEAN IF SHE EMAIL OTHERS MEANS SHE IS HOOKED U GONNA TRUST URSELF FIRST ARE U SINCERE WITH HER,THIS TRIGGERED AND U R ALARMED. SHE MAY BEEN TRIGGERED SEVERAL TIMES BUT DID SHE THINK OF CALLING OFF WITH U. HEY MAN RELAX THAT IS NOT THE END OF WORLD, SOME PEOPLE EMAILS TO OTHERS AS COMPANY OR SHARE VIEWS IF GONNA BE THIS WAY THAT ALL MENS SHOULD GET PREPARED TO LOOSE THEIR LUV ONES

Answer 5

No, but you should confront her and get her to talk to you about what is going on.

Then try to get her to go to a marriage counsellor with you -- you need to know why she would explore a non-personal online relationship that hurts you.

Assuming that's done, give her an ultimatum. Tell her that you will leave if you no longer are #1 for her.

Answer 6

I wouldn't unless this isn't new. If it is new, I would ask what I did to promote such a sad action and see if it was repairable.
Good Luck. Marriage is a lot of work, and sometimes the bad seems to show it's face a little more than the good.

Answer 7

I don't think that you should leave her, but what you should do is look into why she is hiding them. You can't assume things because when you assume you look like a A**! So basically just do some investigation. If you investigation comes back what you thought it was than do what you have to do. Good Luck.

Answer 8

You should talk first. How do you know she's lying? Are you accessing her email? Sounds like you both need to get things out in the open.

Answer 9

You can't have a successful and happy marraige without trust. If she is lying about emails, what else is she lying about? Liars don't change, they just get better at lying.

Answer 10

I guess that would depend on the context of the emails. I'd say if she is lying there is something going on.

Answer 11

she obviously has something to hide,remind her of the vows the both of you took and that lying abt things in a marriage exhibits lack of trust of her in you and jeopardizes the trust you have in her..there could be lots of reasons for her discreetness abt this,try to do as I advised but don't leave her...you took a vow rite?..." 4 BETTER and 4 WORSE..."