what is the best way to overcome shyness?

Answer 1

I have always been a shy person as well. What really helped me was my job. I started working at Abercrombie & Fitch and that job demands you to be social and confident in yourself. After a while I began to feel better about myself and became more outgoing.
I'm not telling you to go out and start working at Abercrombie but I'm just saying that you need to put yourself out there and take chances. Be friendly and talkative and after awhile those things will come naturally to you because those kinds of things are all in your mind. If you believe that you are shy then you are. If you believe that you can be vivacious and the life of a party, then you are so just believe in yourself! I know this sounds weird but look in the mirror and say a complement to yourself outloud to boost your confedence! I wish you the best of luck!


-Jessica-

Answer 2

You have overcome your shyness. It's just you are not use to doing it around others. Do you have any brothers or sisters? Just think everyone as like your family. Be yourself like you are at home. Don't let others bring you down with bad comments. They just want to make you feel bad, and that's not what you want. Another way to overcome your shyness is maybe practice what you're doing a couple of times. That way you'll get so use to it that you won't feel shy anymore. Alright? Good Luck. I know you can break out of that shyness shell.

Answer 3

Learn to look people in the eye, and hold their gaze - then casually look away as if you don't care. It's a great way of boosting a little self confidence.

Also - although it's mainly aimed for guys, read a book called "The Game" by Neil Strauss. When I read that book, my whole life changed for the better, not because I was picking up any more women, but because things I used to be shy about, or things which scared me were suddenly not issues worth worrying about.

It'll basically give you an insight into human behaviour as seen by a pick up artist.

Also force yourself into difficult situations just to see if you can do them. Once you're in a situation, you then have to deal with it and the more you force yourself to deal with difficult situations the easier they become and the more confidence you will build

Good Luck :)

Answer 4

Being shy is actually not being your true self, therefore be comfortable with who you are and don't pretend to be who you are not. You also can overcome shyness by taking on certain roles that allows you the opportunity to speak out in public, a mean roles you are obligated to perform. This will allow your shyness to overtime disappear without you even noticing.

Answer 5

Shyness can be an appealing quality in a person, as long it is not a crippling shyness that stops them from doing things they want to do. You shouldn't try to change your personality, you should embrace it. Really outgoing people can be annoying! If you do want to put yourself out there more, it always helps to have a friend who is less shy than you who supports you and (gently) encourages you to do things you might not normally do.

Answer 6

First off, there's nothing wrong with being shy. However sometimes when you don't say much and shy away from some situations then you can come across as rude and I have never met a rude shy person.
Second, I'm shy. There is a part inside all of us that rages with things to say and has all these opinions. Try letting some of that out when you're alone. Say it out loud, write it down, just get it out. When you start to do this it's inevitable that when you're out in a social situation you'll start talking and people will listen because you have something to say. People who talk without thinking tend to be talking without substance.
You'll be fine. Be yourself.

Answer 7

It's hard! I really think that being an introvert or extrovert is not something you can really change about yourself.

I remember reading that introverts were people who needed to "recharge" away from people and extroverts got their energy by being with people.

That being said, I think that you can put effort into getting yourself a little more out there... I've always been shy but the things that have helped me become more comfortable around people have been through joining clubs and stuff.

Toastmasters, an international public speaking club, is a good one to try. It'll be a constant challenge but the more you do it, the more you feel comfortable with new people and being put in the spotlight.

Answer 8

You need to have confidence in yourself and be happy with who you are. Surround yourself with people who u know and love to start off with as they will get you to be yourself more then once your feeling abit more confident go out and mix with different people. The more relaxed you are the more the shyness will disappear. Good luck in overcoming this problem.

Answer 9

1. That's a hard one. Sometimes shyness can be mistaken for boredom. You are not surrounded by the type of people that awaken you & stimulate your creativity & mind. You end up in social situation with people whom you really share nothing in common. You go home disappointed & frustrated that you wasted your time.

2. It's true, that there's social phobia, too. People demand too much of you and you retreat. People and their problems can be overwhelming at times, especially if they expect you to live their lives along with yours. No thank you very much. One life is enough to manage.

3. Just be forthright with people — they can take you or leave you. At least you don't waste alot of time, and know right away where you stand with people.

4. Involve yourself in hobbies, avocations, that truly excite you. Then, you will be mingling with people you have something in common with & can have a meaningful conversation with that satisfies you.

Answer 10

Well i don't really know what age you are but speeches in school always makes me confident, the more the better you become at overcoming the shyness...