I've known the person for a couple of months, but I've talked to her only a few times. Is it proper to go up to her and just tickle her or not. I need some input....please.
2006-08-11 01:15:23 · 12 answers · asked by roadrunner1977 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The way I gage that is to determine if she would be comfortable with me just coming up and giving her shoulder massage or a hug. If there is no comfortable contact already in place, it would be very awkward to just playfully squeeze her ribs or tickle her.
The first thing that you need to establish is a friendship based on trust and respect. You can always offer to give her a nice back massage or foot massage… If she becomes comfortable with that and you really feel that a nice, trusting friendship is growing into place, then you can sneak in a playful tickle attack.
If you do this - you MUST respect her. If she tells you that she hates to be tickled - accept it and don’t tickle her again. If, on the other hand she seems to enjoy it. Keep it in your repertoire and have some occasional fun with it.
Non-consensual tickling is never a good idea or a good thing to do. Anytime somebody forces their way on a ticklish person who has no way of defending themselves just to hear the laughter and have the power to control it, that person is also saying “I do not respect you. I do not care if you don’t want this or like this. I am only thinking of myself”. They might not say it through words but they are saying it through action.
That is why it is critical that you know the person better and always strive to keep it fun and playful for BOTH parties - not just you.
I hope that this helped!
2006-08-12 07:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you already know the answer: you want to but you think you shouldn't yet (otherwise you would not ask us).
Try getting in touch with her (no pun intended), talk to her, spend some time. Then, only when the time is proper, give her a nice but gentle tickle.
2006-08-11 07:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by dr_kant 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wanting to tickle her? To flirt? You should be very careful with the sexual harrassment thing and all. Maybe you should get to know her a little better first. That might make her feel uncomfortable and could chase her away.
2006-08-11 01:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by ginger sue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i personally dont think that is the right thing to do-you would just be too forward and step into her personal space..you need to be able to gain her trust and friendship first before you cross her boundaries..she might think you are making a move on her and get discouraged..and if you really like her you will respect her space and have conversation with her and find out her limitations..GOOD LUCK
2006-08-11 01:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by willsgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is really up tight don't do that but if she is laid back than I think it would be OK. Do you even know if she is ticklish? You might want to find out?
2006-08-11 01:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you don't mind if things get out of control.
2006-08-11 01:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she is ticklish and see how she responds. Make it seem playful.
2006-08-11 04:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people do not like to be tickled.
I would not push it.
2006-08-11 01:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could have some problems if she doesn't like it.
2006-08-11 02:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no once its in the rite place
2006-08-11 01:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by juicylucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋