how can i ask my sensitive wife she needs to lose weight in the mot respectful polite way?

Question

we already joined gym together

Answer 1

join a gym together

Answer 2

Well, there is no respectful way, I gained a few pounds after my last child and my husband use to try to approach me in a delicate way, but I felt that he was just worrying about what people would say or the image that it gave off if we were together, that just hurt me because your wife already knows she has gained weight and she knows how you feel, she can feel it she can see and you probably don't touch her the same way you use to....Just keep doing things together, let her know that you love her and try not to show that the weight is bothering you she feels it...The more you pour into her the more she will want to give you, keep her busy, keep her active, romance her to death, you make her some healthy meals, go grocery shopping with her and put more fruit and stuff in there, my problem was not the fact that I was eating the wrong stuff, it just was hard for the weight to come off especially when your are trying to raise kids, work, come home and be a wife, it seems like there isn't enough time....So you have to become more sensitive to her, she's sensitive because she knows she has gined weight and her self esteem is shot...build her up man, that is your wife...you are her rib, she is a reflection of you, help her, do whatever it takes and just love her, would you want her to leave you or complain about things with you if something wasn't right with you... till death do us part....Good luck and I hope this helps.....

Answer 3

You said you all join a gym together, that's good. Now try compliment her on how good she is looking since you two started at the gym. Sometimes the best way to get your way is going the compliment way. Women just love when their man notices the little things even its not true. This might encourage her to continue to lose weight. As she continues, just keep telling her how hot she looks and how its makes you hot for her. That should get her going to that gym everyday. Good luck.

Answer 4

There's really no polite way. My husband told me if I ever get fat he would ask me to join a gym with him and help me do it. Maybe you should say that you are getting concerned about her weight and want her to be healthy, then ask her to join a gym with you. As long as you both go together it might break the ice a little.

Answer 5

Trust me, she already knows. Ragging her about it will just make her feel worthless, therefore LESS likely to stick with a diet and exercise program. You need to focus on the positive, like how much better she is looking after only 2 weeks at the gym, or what a big difference losing just 3 pounds makes -- how she looks so good you can't keep your hands off her! Having positive feedback about her appearance will inspire to want to look even better, so she can get MORE of that wonderful positive feedback.

Answer 6

You look like you need to lose a few pounds. You obviously don't love your wife unconditionally. Weight lose is not an easy thing for some people to do, I tend to think that some people are meant to big. I wish you luck though when you work out how you are going to tell your wife you think shes FAT. I'd duck when the saucepan comes flying across the room.

Answer 7

I think you should love her no matter what. There is no polite way to ask a woman to lose weight. The only way she is really going to lose weight is if she really wants to. If you say anything to her about this, it could make it worse. Woman are very sensitive to this subject, so I would have to say don't say anything to her. Sorry, that is the best advice I can give.

Answer 8

It may NEED to be said...you may WANT to say it very much...
but the second you say it you are telling her three things:
I don't love you because you are fat
I don't ever want to see you naked again because you are an unattractive pig.
Im shallow enough to care only about myself , my own sexual needs and what my friends think of you.
Don't try the old "Im worried about your health" bullshit. Trust me that doesn't work at all. We percieve the word health to mean that you are worried about you..Not us.

Now that being said a fat girl can be pursuaded and inspired to go to the light side. It takes time and motivation and a solid support. YOU need to be her solid support and SHE needs to be motivated on her own. The fastest way to get a woman to want to lose wieght is to romance her. No joke, if you start really looking into her eyes and holding her hand...she will put down the cupcake. The cupcake is really just a stand in for what she feels is missing affection.
Slowly when she is busy paying attention to your renewed attention, start filling the house with veggies and lean meats, and start making long walk dates or go to the gym dates...and really make them dates..not chores.
You WILL have to change your own eating habits as well. If you had an alcoholic in the house you can't drink beer in front of them. This is the support part. Its sucks but youll thank yourself for it.
This is the only way to ask her to lose wieght, that won't make her so miserable she eats more.
Every woman wants to do, whatever it takes to make a man look at her with burning lust. If you start looking at her like you want her more than anything when you guys come home from the gym..she will want to go back. Plus sex burns calories.

Good luck. Ive been there on the recieving end of: "I only want you to lose wieght for you, honey. Im worried about your health."
Ive never kept a man who has asked me to lose wieght. ever. My current has never asked...he has only done what Im advising you to do...and Ive lost 30 pounds.




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Answer 9

Put the focus on yourself.. tell her that u want to lose weight but that u need someone that will basically be your coach, someone that will push u and make u work out, and work out with u cause u dont like to work out alone so u need a driving force.. ask her to buy only good foods for the house because if they are anywhere near the house u'll cheat .. Basically if u put the focus on yourself, but get her involved.. she wont feel insecure about herself, and the way she looks, but she'll be focused in on helping u , and she'll be losing at the same time.. Reverse psychology.. u both end up getting healthy this way, so its a win win battle..

Answer 10

Tell her that you want to become more active together. Take long walks or bike rides, maybe join a local gym and work out together. Don't put it all on her, exercise is good for anyone, whether overweight or not.

Answer 11

Your pretty much screwed on this one. even if you join a gym together she'll still think the wrong on it, even though its probably the best way to do it. You could try to get one of her friends to get her a membership, or any other way you can take the blame off you and put it on someone else.