Does a woman tolorate certain things after being in a marriage for say16 yrs?

Question

I FEEHOUGH I PUT UP W/ MORE BS THAN I USE TOO...JUST FOR NONE ARGUEMENT SAKE ..I'M 45 NEXT MONTH & FEEL IT WILL BE A HARD START OVER....

Answer 1

Nonsense! You're in the prime of your life and never ever tell yourself differently. There comes a time when a person says....enough is enough.

Answer 2

A little of advice from me would be that being married for 16 years some people start taking each other for granted..being marrie dan dbeing in Love is totally differant..I know trust me..To me it all depends on how bad you want to be married no 45 is not too old to "start over" Happiness is something we all deserve..but if you still Love this person then try discussing this is issue with him,and if that doens't work then there is a problem..

Answer 3

Yes, she probably does. Congratulations on 16 years by the way! Why start over? Just stop putting up with so much, as far as sake of arguement - sweetie life is too short to argue and you can't change another person, only how they treat you. That usually means you have to start working on yourself first, start to feel loved and beautiful to YOU, get a make-over, go through your wardrobe and refresh it. Once you feel great about yourself, then start to focus on what you have with your husband.

Answer 4

The one thing I have learned about love, is comfort, and if you are no longer comfortable in your relationship, it isn't worth the time to waste.

You can try and find things to do to rekindle the relationship, do some of the things you used to do together, before you had children (if you have any). Time for just each other, away from home, away from everyone! In a relationship esp. after 16 yrs, you start losing yourself. You need to find YOU to be happy.

It's hard to tell anyone to end a relationship, but life goes on...a little hard at first, but it gets easier and can be better! Good Luck

Answer 5

My mom went through the same thing. She's 45 and after 26 years of marriage she left my dad. Think about this, can you picture yourself married to the same man in another sixteen years?

Answer 6

45 is darn young . . . I bet you're still attractive, too.

I'd start considering divorce . . . look, if you have kids they're seeing how your husband is treating you (lack of respect, which is CRAP) and they're going to treat their future spouses that way. Starting over is never easy but it won't be any easier when you're 50.

Good luck, this isn't an easy thing obviously.

Answer 7

I started over at 42. Though I'm not financially set by any means, the peace of mind and well being is definately worth it.

Answer 8

Men and women both tolerate each other..it ain't easy.. but if you feel you are being bullied, you should say something. 45 is not old, if you are unhappy, you should change your life. You only get one shot. You may as well have fun.

Answer 9

I took more and more crap because i felt the same way you did, and he kept dishing out more and more crap- then after twenty one years he started whitening his teeth and writing those hair plug places... he left me because he wanted more passion in his life so I am starting over anyway- starting over is easy if you are happy

Answer 10

women tend to tune and tone out non pleasantries with spouses. It's like turning off an annoying radio station of blah blah blah ya da yada.....

Start over....why? what for? Just deal.....Get yourself some friends and you'll find it much easier to cope with the blah blah blah ya da yada!!