Started seeing my boyf 3 months ago and he practically lives with me should i just move him in perm?
2006-08-11 00:27:24 · 17 answers · asked by lynn d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no, its just more crap to move out when you split. give it at least a year.
2006-08-11 00:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by spyderman1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How committed is he to you?
With each extra step you take in a relationship comes an extra degree of hurt if it all falls apart.
If someone breaks up with you after a peck on the cheek it hurts a lot less than if you're sleeping together. And if you move in and share your own bed, your bills, your dreams and ambitions together, then if you split up, it will be ten times worse.
When you start living together, your lives become bonded together in ways that they weren't before. You can't get a pet without discussing it with him. You cannot take a new job or move away without consulting him first. He has a responsibility to help you pay the bills. You'll always go on holiday together etc... etc ...
So my question to you is - does he love you? Because if you're not sure he's committed to you, it would be a really bad move to let him move in.
If it's yes, how has he shown you? I don't mean with flowers or chocolates or with easy words. How has he shown he is committed enough to you for you to open yourself up to the possibility of being hurt it it goes wrong?
I would say, as a christian, that the best way to prove his love to you is to marry you. But if that's not the proof you're looking for, then what? What would you say?
But without love, expressed in concrete commitment, my advice would be, don't!
2006-08-11 07:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by PastorChris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no in my opinion it seems quite fast. He may live there most of the time already but keep it that way until you can properly jude how he is and what he acts like. You may not know everything about him yet and what he is telling you might not be true. So just take some more time to find out what he would be like to live with before you ask him.
Hope this helps take care x
2006-08-12 19:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Natalie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I was about to say no way, wait because three months is way too soon, but I would be totally contradicting myself because I moved in with my love two months into our relationship and we'll have been together for three years in October. We've just bought a house too and we're really happy! It was totally out of character for me to get serious so quickly but it felt right and has been great. It's probably not the best thing to do if you're not sure about him, but it worked for us anyway!
2006-08-11 07:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Hotpink555 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moved in with my boyfriend after being together only 8 wks. we've been together 12 yrs now and have 2 lovely children. Go for it, he may just be the love of your life.
2006-08-11 10:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how well you both get on.They say yo will never trully get to know a person untill you live with them so why not take a chance but only if you feel ready too.
2006-08-11 07:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can really answer that for yourself. just make sure you start out how you expect to continue ; some ground rules first; shared expenses;chores;where you expect the relationship to go.
Also make sure that you both maintain other interests & friendships along with shared ones.
STOP & think about just how well you do know this guy.
GOOD LUCK
2006-08-11 07:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, give it a go. i did. Now six years later we are still best friends and we now have a beautiful 15 month baby boy. i say it's better to find out sooner than later, lifes too short.
2006-08-11 07:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by sue f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon as its offical that he's moved in, thats when it goes wrong. if he realises that he is there the majority of the time he should realise that he has to contribute. 3 months is far too soon. You should keep it they way it is until you know more about eachother!
2006-08-14 10:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, in my opinion he doesn't want the responsibility to pay for his own place if you let him move in with you he going to be a free loader you might end up doing every thing for him.
2006-08-11 07:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a good idea to move your bf in such a short time this is only an advice: know him better before living w/ him
2006-08-11 07:33:26 · answer #11 · answered by taGaLOG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋