I try so hard to get my ex to understand that I want things to be good between us for the new baby. He tells everyone that I just want him back. I was in the hospital last weekend, and I asked him to please come stay with me because there might be something wrong with the baby. He told me that I needed to stop trying to make him feel like crap, and stop running to the hospital everytime I want attention.
2006-08-11 00:06:00 · 10 answers · asked by Jewels 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a father of three boys and 1 girl and was there for the birth of all my kids. Although i dont enjoy a particularly good relationship with my two ex-partners, i still have to do my part has a father and in doing so there are times that i have to consider if my actions will have an effect on their happieness.This doesn't say that i cant have a life and enjoy what i'm doing with whoever i choose to do it with, but i still have to have that level of respect for my family and have there best intrest at heart,after all; as i see it kids are the innocent victims that didn't choose to be here and for whom i think that once we make that conscious decision to bring them into this world, we have a responsibility to them untill they become adults.Also its about recognising that they are BLOOD and partly share the same DNA and who will carry on the family legacy, it is obvious to most and goes without saying that why would you not wish or want to do your best for your family in any giving situation no matter the circumstances. Call me old fashioned but the way a i see it is that this world can be a cold,lonely,cruel, unforgiving,scary place at the best of times for adults,never mind for kids who have to contend with not knowing that daddy might not love them among other things. I say that if a man doesn't know what he's been blessed with when he is given a family then thats his loss and maybe his lack of respect or even love. In some cases these two main factors may also be missing from that individuals own life and because of this they themself find it difficult to give something that they were never given and subsequently don't possess. Maybe one day he'll open his eyes but untill that day he'll remain in the dark and blind to the real beauty of a family and a families love. It might be that you already know this and that might of been a factor in why you and him never made it. Hope one day that things change and you can all move on productivly but untill that day i say place him at the back of your mind and if the day comes that you feel that you can move forward with him(interms of him showing you and your family the respect you deserve) then maybe you'll be able to turn over a new page and start a new chapter.Mom always said action speak louder than words and no real man needs to be told the importance of keeping it real for family, it should just come from the heart. Peace!!! LIVE YOUR LIFE
2006-08-11 02:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by nino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear mom,
look around and see in what world do u live. and now see where are u and ur baby. what a future for u two. without father, and a houseband. day by day, u r being sufficated by problems and worries.
in such a situations, where we are desperate, we do not see when go off the path. is your wish that ur child has a father so strong that even his actions dont make u change ur mind, the go ahead, go asking him to come back. but he won't. he'll remain deaf. so anoyingly deaf, terrifying calm to the future of his baby.
dear mom, will u make it? isnt it easier to face the truth. it's not that bad. now u have a new goal in ur life. much higher. imagine, even for a second, a world without him. if he doesnt learn to appreciate that single life, then u wont make him.
turn to ur baby now. stop acting like a girl with no resposabilities. face the pain, step on it, and go on.
just dont patronise urself, because of a patehtic, scraed man. unmatured. which father behaves that like? but dont judge him. he'll understand his mistake one day. and he'll be sorry. even then dont judge him. it will kill it.
no life of a child is moreimportant then any other life. just be a mom. no more hospitals, fightings, cries in the bathroom.
a new day is coming, mom. be ready for it.
2006-08-11 07:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kaja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your 'ex', then things will be good between you if you let him get on with his life. Unless the baby was in the hospital as well there was no reason for him to be there... unless you were doing the sympathy manipulation thing.
2006-08-11 07:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be feeling overwhelmed. and he still may have feelings for you and think that if he is an *** to you that you will not anything to do with him. he is a good father? if he only comes around when you tell him that he needs to then just leave him alone one day he will wake up.
2006-08-11 07:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes stop trying! girl this guy is a total jerk and so not worth your time....get some child support from him and move on with your life...
2006-08-11 09:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is already "ex" then what are you doing? I mean just give up on him and live your life.
2006-08-11 07:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by dua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best to give up on him, then get him for child support.
2006-08-11 07:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Texas Made! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants not only the baby but you too
2006-08-11 07:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a real prize...
2006-08-11 07:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new guy
2006-08-11 07:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by asslko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋