I have been with this guy for 10 months and we did declare love for each other.He is a very busy man coz he has 2 jobs so we only get to see each other twice a week. He had been assuring me that he wanna be with me and he will never cheat on me. I trusted him but all this changed a few days ago, when he got a phone call from another gal. He always answer his phone when am there but this time he went to the toilet to do it. When i asked him he said it is a gal he works with whom had a fight with her boyfriend.A few minutes later the gal called again and she kept on calling and that when i knew something was wrong and he finally told me it is a gal who fancy him but he does not fancy her back i also discovered they have been seing each other behind my back. I was really hurt and i decided to give him time with his new bird. What will you have done
2006-08-10 23:43:41 · 20 answers · asked by bec 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you say what will you do it makes it sound like it will happen, which I hope it doesn't .
you need to ask yourself if you trust him still, can you trust him again? will it happen again? if he works with her, he will probably still see her, can you trust him to do so?
HTH
2006-08-10 23:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by sarah_roo03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I know you have invested 10 months with this guy, but it's not years and he lied to you first. That tells me he has no respect for you and if given the opportunity will probably do it again and lie again as well. Kick him to the curb, you deserve so much better!
2006-08-11 06:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by X's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly the same happened to me my bf worked with a girl who fancied him i found texts on his phone from her sayin i didnt realise you liked me in that way i thought you liked me jusat as a friend so hed obviously told her he liked her more than a friend my bf has hurt me soooo many times i wish i finished it but have been with him 3 years now i hate him 4 it love get out why u can or you will have this on your mind every day like me good luck = ) and be strong xxx
2006-08-11 08:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by claire G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should end the relationship.. if he really love you, he wouldn't go out with that gal behind ur back.. in fact, they shouldn't have gone out with each other at all esp since he already has you.. it just shows that he doesn't really care abt you since he's cheating on you.. so why bother give ur feelings to someone who doesn't appreciate it?
2006-08-11 06:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by cfrozty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave him time with his new bird? Are you mad??! DUMP HIM - NOW!! I've had similar happen to me with the love of my life and stupidly I took him back (more than once). What a mistake that was. It'll only screw you up...find someone who deserves you and who wants to be with you. You don't need that crap in your life.
2006-08-11 06:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by long_luscious_lashes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very tricky as obviously u still love dis...cud say give him soace to make up his own mind..but we all know guys think with trousers not with brain..if u star fighting with him it could make hi9m even more determined to run 2 her...i think call it off nd u have a good think 2 do you deserve to be lied to like this and to have to share ur guy jus coz SHE fancies him???..if its true love as they say hell come round...good luck
2006-08-11 06:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by mousecurtain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not of give him time with his new fling....he should not of did this to you if he cared anything about you...i would have a hard time of trusting him now...if a man really loves a woman he should be faithful to her like she is to him...i think you should stand your ground and tell him he gets rid of her or loses you...you do not have to take such treatment from any man...i lived with a abusive husband and he thought he could do as he pleased and i wasted 23 years of my life with this man because of the children mostly...now i am alone...i do not think you should waste your good years on someone like him...find someone that loves you enough to be faithful to you....care enough about yourself to do that...i do not think you will regret this advice..
2006-08-11 06:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...bastard. Because of people like him, my wife thinks all men do it and thinks I am up to something even though I really work late.
2006-08-11 06:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him 2 the cerb
2006-08-11 06:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by mcverry2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 months is a very short time - get rid of him.
2006-08-11 06:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋