Well, my best friend for 10 years (a girl) has apparently been telling people that I'm really pissing her off. So, what I'm asking you is what I should do. I got told by a kid that she was talking to that I should lay off a while. I told him that if she has a problem with me she should talk to me about it. What should I do? I'm of the opinion that I should talk to her only the basics (hello, how are you etc) until she asks me what's wrong (which she always does when I'm quiet). What do you think I should do. I'm sorta down about it.
2006-08-10 23:33:03 · 12 answers · asked by Wehmer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Um hey everyone who answered...i asked the girl and she told me what I was hoping for...she said she would tell me if anything was annoying her, not everyone else. I'm not pissing her off so :) I'm happy now.
2006-08-11 19:36:15 · update #1
How much do you trust your long time friend?? how much do you trust the person who told you all this?? just think about these questions and don't pre judge base on what you heared.. and yes you can always ask your friend what was going on before you judge her on what she said and why she said.. wait she will probably come to you..
2006-08-10 23:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Nazanin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have been friends for so long, why don't you feel comfortable confronting her about this? You should be able to talk to her and find out what is pissing her off. I'm sure once you get it out in the open, the two of you should be able to resolve this. Maybe she is tired of asking YOU what is wrong, you should be the one to take the initiative. You guys have been friends way too long to just sit in silence.
2006-08-11 06:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by ginger sue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be the bigger person. Go to her and ask her what is wrong tell her what you have been hearing. Do not talk to other people about her, show your loyalty to your friendship. If she chooses to continue talking about you then you know she is not now nor has she ever been a true friend to you. Then when you see her just say hello and keep on walking knowing that you at least tried to maintain the friendship.
2006-08-11 06:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the right time to talk to her, when you both will feel comfortable and ask her about what you've been told, about her talking about you behind your back.
Ask her what's pissing her off. She shouldn't feel like she can't resolve things with you. Let her know you're still her friend despite how she feels now. Her angry may be temporary. But that shouldn't keep you from talking to her.
2006-08-11 06:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by pacific_crush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clear the air and ask her about it. If might be that someone else is attemtping to break up your friendship and is blowing this all out of proportion. However, if she really has issues with your behavior or attitude lately, everything should be put out on thet table. Do you have an inkling as to what she is mad at you about? Whatever the case, I would phone her and ask about all of this. It might be even better if you two got together and discussed it in private someplace.
2006-08-11 09:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know her better than anyone else.
May be circumstances would have let her do so, she might not actually mean it. Give her sometime if she herself conffesses the reality.
If she don't do so, then most probably you'll notice change in her attitude towards you. You may then clearly ask her, but let her speak out first, before you ask about the above mentioned incident.
We all are human beings and our behaviours keep changing timely, but there are surely certains resons behind those changes. let her explain that to you and you try to understand being her friend.
2006-08-11 06:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by Pri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit the nail on the head. talk to her and ask her what it is that is pissing her off about you. Then u guys can resolve the issue together.
2006-08-11 06:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by letshavefun_while_its_last 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the source......If your friend is truly your FRIEND. confront the heresay with this friend. Don't let what heresay has been said ruin a 10 yr friendship.
I currently live with my BF of of 25 yrs. To this day I confront her on things she says....and she does the same!!!
2006-08-11 06:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes do as u said , since she has the problem she should bring it up! and if she asks u how did u know say that they told u n were not sure if it was true n' that's why u were thoughtful!
2006-08-11 06:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by maria32greece 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should talk to that "friend".Because she has to give u a right explanation...after so many years
2006-08-11 06:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Selene_punk182 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋