Ok, my husband is incarcerated for poss. of MJ and he'll be locked up for a while. He told me if I get the urge to have sex I can go take care of business as long as it is protected and its just sex with no feelings involved. This is simple because I can just go to the club and 99% walk out with whomever I please. (Don't mean to sound egotistical) I have done this and have been honest with my husband about it. I engage in safe sex and it truly doesn't bother him but why do I feel guilty? Most times the men I have sex with even know I'm married. Like they care but sometimes I feel guilty.
2006-08-10 23:09:31 · 20 answers · asked by heatherlynnmorrow 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love is not an issue. We are very much in love with eachother. And if he wants to get back at me hell, he can have sex with as many people as I did and it wouldn't bother me. And people really need to stop being so dam judgemental!
2006-08-10 23:19:40 · update #1
Thee is no reason to feel guilty. You are just satisfying your needs. It is great that you can separate sex and love. People will criticize you but who cares. Your guilt is coming from the way that you have been programmed to think to think that sex outside of the marriage is bad. Reprogram yourself and have fun. If your husband is good with it, there is no need to feel guilty. Love your husband and still have some fun. Just keep on keeping the sex separate from love and you will be fine,
2006-08-10 23:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand sex is an important part of a marriage, but there are other ways to take care of yourself. Put yourself in his shoes, would you like him doing that to you? I think I would try some other ways and try to maintain. Yea I think I would feel guilty too. You've got to know he's hurting too and doesnt really want you out there with other men. It is also dangerous. Sex is not worth getting raped or killed for it.
2006-08-11 06:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Joy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society and close-minded, ignorant people are quick to tell you that this is wrong, but who knows? Maybe it isn't. What is "wrong" after all? When it comes down to it, nobody knows your situation better than the two of you. If you can work out an agreement between yourselves that will make you both happy, both in the short-run AND (probably more importantly) in the long-run, then isn't that all that matters? We all could stand to be more open-minded about things like this... it's pathetic how society blinds us to possible new ways of living and experiencing this world and the relationships in it.
2006-08-11 06:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possible reasons:
You are using men for sex. (Even though they are using you as well)
You are having an affair. (Even though he says you are allowed)
You feel that a better wife would just go without sex.
You are letting your marrage turn into a mockery.
I just can't imagine any person needing sex so bad that they would cheat on thier partner especially for casual sex with no feelings involved. Sounds like you are more lonely than anything.
2006-08-11 06:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by Saint CaRooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your guilt is telling you the right thing . Its pure wrong morally anyway.
Sex should not be taken so casualy . Just what if your protected sex has a breakthough and you become pregnant . Things happen . Herpes and other unmentionables.
Take care of your body , Not all things you catch are medcally cureable.
2006-08-11 06:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by john f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why put yourself through the misery of feeling guilty? Appearantly your hubby doesn't care, but you do. So don't. It's as simple as that. There's no requirement to have sex: you won't die without it. And if the urges hit, there's always masturbation :)
2006-08-11 06:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think picking up whomever you please at a club makes you should egotistical? You sound trampy! You really should feel guilty if you can't hold out while your guy is in jail for mj possession. I mean damn how long he in for.
2006-08-11 06:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is wrong. You do not have a healthy marriage. Sex is not meant to be a trivial act. It is very powerful, and you are giving a part of yourself away every time you do it. It's called soul ties.
2006-08-11 06:17:10 · answer #8 · answered by Dude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's telling you to "go ahead" because he's bum-******** some prissy dude in jail, honey, and doesn't want to feel guilty. You guys deserve each other.
2006-08-11 07:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it's normal for you to feel guilty. You took vows when you got married and you're not sticking by them, regardless if he agreed to it or not. It doesnt really matter if you SHOULD feel guilty, you said you do...so that's that.
2006-08-11 07:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋