Im 28 and ive known this woman who is a couple of years older to me for a couple of months now. Ive made it pretty clear that i like her and stuff.She says she wants to be friends but keeps sending me mixed signals.Calls me from work , hangs out with me.she even took a whole week off from work and since im vacationing too we spent the whole week doin fun stuff.
Shes been through a bad relationship three years back.
The guy she was seing for four years or so took off and married a girl much younger to her.I think thats playing on her mind. And she says she will never settle down , and that she rather have a dog or something like that.
This is some real confusing **** im goin through.
I very fond of her and i dont know what to do. And Yeah im Sailor
and times the one thing i dont have on my side.Ill be heading off
to sea in a couple of weeks or so. I dont wanna loose her. The last few months i can honestly have been the best days of my life..
I dont wanna loose her.
2006-08-10 23:07:14 · 12 answers · asked by Tetragrammaton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's scared of being hurt.
2006-08-10 23:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by double v 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will lose her if you pressure her into rushing into something she isn't ready for.
You've got two choices. Remain friends/break it off and look elsewhere for love...
or...
take is slow. If you want a long term relationship with this woman, your best bet is to simply let her know what you want and that you are willing to take things slow. Your time at see could be a good thing. You can exchange letters (or e-mails if available) and focus on connecting at an intellectual/emotional level without worrying about the physical part of the relationship just yet.
Perhaps, after establishing that base and becoming more comfortable, she will be ready to go to the next level when you get back from your sea duty.
2006-08-10 23:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Physh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want the Truth or do you want nambeepambeed ..?.... Straighten your hat sailor and head off into the sunset .. There is Millions of hot Babes just waiting for you... You dont want to be tossing & turning in your bunk..get out of the Navy as soon as you can.. and get back to civvy street and get a job.. Older Women (like me) are no good for a young Man like you - soon as your boats over the horizon - she will be teasing the pants off some other sailer - Go and watch An Officer & a Genlteman.. Good Luck Sailor..
2006-08-10 23:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you actually TOLD her how you feel? You need to tell her how wonderful it's been....
You know, you are going out on a tour soon. Ask her if you write, will she keep in touch with you? Lots of wonderful relationships have started with the mail and ended in something more...
Being away and writing her...not just emails, but REAL letters, can really be a great way to tell someone how you feel, and express who you are...
You don't have to lose her, just because you aren't there. If that were true, there wouldn't have been that nice population boom after WWII.
2006-08-10 23:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is waiting for some guy to come along and convince her that he won't hurt her. If she doesn't want a traditional relationship maybe you will fit the bill. She may feel safe with you cause you are trapped on a boat and can't mess around and maybe hook up with someone and dump her plus she doesn't have to have you around all the time, which will give her space.
2006-08-10 23:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 08:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by porterii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's afraid to commit herself in a relationship again. So take your cue from her. Give her the space she needs. But let her know that she's the one you want and are waiting for.
Don't try to push it: you'll only drive her away.
2006-08-10 23:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its clear that you both are in love with each other but dont want to make any commitment. go ahead and be brave. be commited to her and wait for her to respond. be patient
2006-08-10 23:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time.she will come around. right now she is afraid to trust.
2006-08-14 15:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by brownsuga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow your heart, what does it tell you?
2006-08-10 23:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by *Emily* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋