Friend married 24yrs she has been having marriage probs for over 8 and still trying but the love spark has gone, met old friend things developed, now she has to choose the hubby can provide material thngs or the friend the love spark? who should she stay with?
2006-08-10 23:05:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell her to find exact problem between she and her husband all problems can be solved by discussion it might be that she might not be understanding what her husband wants and vice verse tell her to understand him.even he might try to understan her. finding an alternate is not a solution.
2006-08-10 23:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by chetanhthakkar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one and one I am sure alot of people identify with. Me included.In fact I could be that friend. It is very difficult to put the new exciting relationship into the context of the real world. Will it hold up after the difficult and complicated untangling of the long term marriage.
I know it is hard but you need to think of the two relationships separately. You can't trade one for the other. Could she 'Live' on her own after the break up of her marriage. ( and I don't mean just in the material sense). If the answer is yes, then and only then should she consider the other relationship as the next step. Remember, that one may not be all it is cracked up to be once it is no longer an exciting and heady affair and there would be no going back.
2006-08-10 23:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by ragdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love. If the marriage is only based on material things, it's going to be a very unhappy future she's facing. At least she'll have another stab at happiness with the friend, even if it shouldn't work out in the end. Good luck to her!
2006-08-10 23:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by tanja_christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is saying love. I agree love is powerful but I am sympathizing for the husband. How do we know this love spark is not a sex spark? If it is love and if it would make her happy do what makes you happy. Life is too short for regrets. Good luck.
2006-08-10 23:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it work with her husband go get counseling if needed. If she cheats on her husband she will just be bringing her problems into a new relationship. The grass on the other side just looks greener it really isn't. If she exhausts all her options and wants to leave her husband then she should end her marriage and then go into a new relationship.
2006-08-10 23:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me the guys who say love have never been in trouble financially. even without a meal. like in the end of smallville (series of super man-growing up). lex had gone into a comma n was married to clarks ex' n she was pregnant. he was so happy but in the end she developed problems n she needed money for a transfussion. He went to his dad n the dad refused. In the end when he woke up it all hit him, which is also my favoutite quote; nothing matters in this life only money and power; the rest comes later.
2006-08-10 23:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by matu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Materialistic people die alone. A true love is hard to find. If it is indeed meant to be go for the love. Thats a no brainer. Materialistic people cant get past themselves, much less think of anyone else.
2006-08-10 23:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by Joy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her husband she is cheating and that's bad she should try work it out with her husband she thinks she loves the old flame but she does not he is just a destruction from her marital problems she is taking the easy way out
2006-08-11 00:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by cheat_live 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the one with the money love does not pay you bills and cannot maintain the life style your friend is used to she will have to change her life alot its just new love now it will pass like liz taylor says im in love with love new love is always best ,but when it fades she will be broke and unhappy id rather be rich and unhappy driving a mercedes benz.
2006-08-11 00:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love wins hands down.
2006-08-10 23:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of them!
This sounds odd..... .
Is she a good enough women where she won't try and strip her husband of his assets? Not alot of women of her vintage who feel like that.
I think she should stay having an affair, the spark could easily pass!!
2006-08-10 23:11:53 · answer #11 · answered by zara c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋