If two people meet, are attracted to each other and it takes time for one to give in to the other and acccept fate is this a bad start? Can this lead to other problems? If one person in the relationship is on a different plain where love and caring for another is concerned, can the other person really be wrong for feeling let down by this person and acting out?
Let's say circumstances lead to a long term relationship, but the girl is very insecure and very uptight about men, and doesn't trust the guy at all. The guy is very open, loving and caring and does his best. There are a lot of extenuating issues that I am not including here. Way too much to go into...but that is besies to point.
But let's just say that this guy had cared for his partner, through sickness and halth, been there for her, comforted and done his best, and loves her 200% - yet she can't reciprocate love or care, has a huge grudge against him - he was never unfaithful btw - is he wrong to feel adandoned?
2006-08-10 23:04:36 · 6 answers · asked by ghostsqaud 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also, the girl now decides that the time is right to start fighting for the relatinoship... but in the wrong way. she feels hurt and betrayed because the guy is unsure she wants to be with him, he feels very little appreciation and doesn't feel cared for as a husband and wife should do for each other... they talk about this, but it leads to nothing more than the wife beign very angry... she is an agry person in general and also very conceited and jealous. (there could also be children in the pic too)
2006-08-10 23:07:26 · update #1
He ahs stayed together with this girl for so long SWE-girl because he loves her and she is sooooooo special to him, words can't describe the emotions he feels for her. And yes, she has cared for and loved him, but she hasn't done it as he would have expected... pain has allowed anger to prevent her showing him the care he has needed... but I think both have been wrong to each other. It's just how he feels.
2006-08-11 04:14:15 · update #2
What made the girl not trust the guy from the beginning? I know its not ONLY got to do with insecurity, but also other factors play in....has she never been able to show him love and/or care? Then why has this guy stayed together with this girl for however long? If he´s never felt appreciated, or cared for, then why stay? It sounds more like he´s torturing himself by staying...of course all relationships are hard, some harder than others, but it´s not easy to find someone either...so I definetily think it goes both ways, sounds like both of them have to work at it.
And as the old saying goes; two wrong don´t make a right?! Right?!
2006-08-11 01:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by SWE-girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that no matter what happens, that this is a lesson for you to learn in life. You and your life should not be dependant upon anothers affections towards you... you life is yours... not theirs... and when you start to base how you view your life and everything in it dependant on how another feels about it, you will not be living your life... you will be living a semi-dependant lifestyle in which you will never be happy, because you will never be able to complete that other person no matter how hard you try. If the person wants you... they want YOU. Sometimes it is very hard to get the other person to realize this, since all that they can do is see what you don't, won't, or can't do for them. But what THEY don't realize is that you have already given yourself to them by making the commitment to be with them. If they wanted something else then why did they accept YOU (as you are) in the first place? I have come to this hard lesson on my own very recently. My only offer of condolence is this: that which doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger. My advice to you is this: if it really doesn't work, all of your want will not make it. You can change your habits, hobbies, lifestyle, friends, and everything else that you can think of to change to suit the other person. Once that is complete, then you are not the person that they initially wanted to deal with in the first place. Think about it... I have to everyday. Relationships should not ever be about one giving in to the other, they should be about caring enough about the other person to share what you do have now... experience, knowledge, love, etc. Not a complete resolve to change yourself to suit the other.
2006-08-11 00:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Spanky119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Ghost,
Do you think it could be a hormonal problem exacerbated by circumstances? Actually Ghost this is such a complex difficult question, i dont see how you can expect an answer on here. If it was me i would probs just run away from the problem and keep commited to the people who really need me. lol lol @ alf garnet and john wayne
2006-08-10 23:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Worship her and that puts the ball in her court , but she hates the fact that she can do no wrong in your eyes .
she wants a man not a wife or a mother , snap out of it !
next time you have a situation to deal with try to imagine what John Wayne or Alf garnet would do and copy them .
2006-08-10 23:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got me a little confused. Maybe these people shouldn't be together. It seems that they are just hurting each other.
2006-08-10 23:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by metztli99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who needs all that drama?! Dump her and find someone that will give you what you need.
2006-08-11 00:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋