What people think in indian developed cities about their old traditional marriage system?

Question

What the young generation in india think about arranged marriage and the non arramged ones?

Answer 1

I think there is no such thing as " Ideal Marriage" . A Marriage is a marriage whether love or arranged and the onus to make it successful lies on both the partners.

Any marriage involves a lot of adjustments as two mature and different individuals come to stay together.

There are traps with both the types of mariages. For arranged marriage we know these traps.

But even the road to love mariage is not so smooth. These days when you have to slog in your workplace, you won't have time to actually know someone enuf to make him/ her your life partner. If you are meeting him / her for 4-5 hours in a week, chances are very slim than you would be able to know them well as they will always try to put their best foot forward and so will you.

Another thing is that it is a bit fashionable to go for a love marriage and people usually don't love - they just love the idea of falling into love.

I think with the passage of time, these definitions will fade away. The key is to know a person sufficient enough before marriage takes place. Now the question is how sufficient is "sufficient"? any answers?

Answer 2

I am 15, born and living in Hong Kong. I don't agree with arranged marriage myself. I cannot stand the fact that someone would want to marry/ live a life with someone who is almost a stranger.

People have argued that in arranged marriages, you will eventually learn to "love" your spouse--- that's not learning to "love", that becoming used to the person, and the two are completely different things. Another arguement may be that the divorce rate in arranged marriages are much lower than love marriages. But how can you guarantee that two people in an arranged marriage are happy? They may be forced not to divorce per se culture & traditions. I personally would rather choose my own partner or not get married at all.

Then again, it may be a different situation for youths living in India. The option of arranged marriage may be attractive if they are not socially active, especially young men.

Answer 3

Even in arranged marriages, you don't marry a totally unknown stranger.There is a lot of emphasis on family compatibility and most often there is an engagement period before the wedding which helps in developing some understanding. I would still vote for arranged marriages as you start to discover a person in totality after marriage. Unlike a love marriage, where each partner puts on his/her best behaviour only during the courtship phase and it is usually a shocking discovery of darker side after the marriage.For any marriage to succed, both will have to work at it and this happens better in 'arr.mar' as you accept the person as he/she is.

Answer 4

An arranged marriage is definitely a better option than a love marriage. Even the younger generation mostly prefers arranged marriage though you can make it look like a love marriage later on after your marriage by the mutual love and respect you share for each other.

Answer 5

Arranged marriage is still preferred by the majority of youth and the parents. In a multi-cultured and multi-linguistic society people prefer to marry within their own social circles. Since it is mostly arranged marriage, this practise ensures greater degree of certainty in the marital family life. But with growing rate of education, particularly in the technological sector, among women there has been a recent trend of more love marriages across the country. But there has been equal growth in cases of divorce and separation.

Answer 6

i am an indian got into arrange marraige to,married for 8 yrs now...but still thinks arrange marraiges are not good..for so many ppl like me thr is some vacancy in most impt parts of marraige...no connection..no chemistry..no passion.
so i dont wanna recommend arrange marraige to any one..it wld be really diff. if u fall in love passionately and then get married.
i long for tht passion since day 1....and hv been miserable all those yrs..but still continuing this marraige be's of my cultural values and family beliefs.

Answer 7

prefer love marriages now

Answer 8

because india is still not well developed country it is still developing & india is still following the odl tradition

Answer 9

its boring i am in doubt that ur being so cool asking this boring question .

Answer 10

..most think it is an auspicious one....some think it is backdated & an expensive affair.