Gay people were once straight???

Question

Okay lots of people has objections with this statement, and its fine by me to be corrected. They say they were never straight, at least not all. I love gay men especially because they are so fun to be wtih rather than to be with a straight guy, but i wasnt attracted to them (ah maybe just once, he looks so patrick swayze) however, can someone justify why some gay people were born gay? when was the first time you discovered you're a fab?

Answer 1

I've always questioned the theory that we start out gay or straight early on in life. I'm not arguing that sexuality isn't biological - I'm merely stating that identifying a pre-pubescent child as str8 or gay seems odd to me. I can only speak for myself. But before puberty I had no sexual inclinations toward either sex. I was attracted to members of both but for reasons entirely non-sexual. (unless you subscribe to Freudian ideals then it was entirely sexual :P ) At the onset of puberty all my sexual desires were for men. So to answer the question - I was never straight, I was asexual then gay.

Answer 2

This can be confusing to some. While all current medical evidence points to most of us being born with our sexual orientation, the vast majority of us were born to straight parents, and brought up with the expectation that we would be straight. So for each of us, it takes some time for us to mature and come to understand our sexual orientation, especially if it is different from most of the people arround us.

Some realize it at an early age. I've heard of guys who knew at age 5 or 6, 8 or 9. For me, I wouldn't have had a clue, as there wasn't much going on in terms of sexual feelings when I was that young, and I don't think I had an idea of homosexuality until I was 12 or 13. I experimented with boys at that age, but I thought it was just something guys do before they can "get a girl". I didn't really know I was at least bisexual until I was 16 or 17, and I didn't give up the ship on women until about age 30, though I was active with males too from my early 20s.

Answer 3

I don't tell people I was necessarily born gay. I think it's probably a likelihood, but the only thing I say for certain is that it was not a "choice". If that comes down to a dichotomy in your head, and you can't be dissuaded from that, then fine. That having been said, I think that I've always been attracted to guys (by "always" i mean since around 7th grade; when other people started being attracted to girls). However, I WAS socialized to think that that's gross / wrong etc. So, I tried to fool myself for awhile. Had a little "crush" on a girl that was completely unattainable. Even had a girlfriend for a month before sophomore year. But that whole time, I did KNOW that I was finding other guys attractive; I was just hoping it would go away on its own. Needless to say, it didn't. And I'm happier now. And all that rot. ;)

Answer 4

I knew I was attracted to boys in a special way when I was 8. I fell in love with my best friend (Clarence) when I was 10. I figured out that it was sexual for sure at 11 (I saw his "peepee," I wasn't in puberty for almost 2 years after that, but the reaction of both my own penis -- and my stomach, my heart, every part of me -- made it pretty clear what I wanted and I fantasized about it for months and months every time I daydreamed -- one advantage of being male is that your body let's you know what's natural to it). I had my first reciprocal boyfriend at 13 and I came out in a selected manner at 14.

As for why gays (at least gay men) were born gay -- I would turn to various genetics studies that are of recent origin. The fruitfly study is a big one (link below) and the study in Italy that showed how homosexuality might have become evolutionarily preferred as a male trait with partial penetrance carried on the X chromosone -- so carried by women, expressed in men also impresses me as likely. Then there are recombinant possibilities and so forth.

Hope that helps.

Kind thoughts,

Reyn
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Answer 5

There is scientific evidence linking homosexuality to a gene transferred by the mother. Hence, some (maybe not all) gays are born gay. I know this study was about homosexual men, I am not sure if it applies to lesbians too, but I have no problem saying they are born that way too.

I first realized I was gay when just a little child, before 10 years old, I think...

Answer 6

It's like I can't quite put my finger on it,but,you know how a duck will follow the first thing it comes in contact with,right after he comes out of his shell?Well I think that the very first sexual urge a person has is what sticks.When like a cousin,or friend spins the nite and there is talk of sex.At a early age.Maybe?Also,a team of Swedish researchers discovered that the brains of gay men was different than that of a straight male.Seems that the brains of the gay men had the frontal lobes of a woman and the rest look like a regular guys brain???There is a distinct difference,most gays I know are simply gay.It's part of us,and there is nothing we need to do about it!!PEACE AND LOVE!!

Answer 7

didn't know what it meant, but was highly attracted to men's bodies when I was 5. Trust me, I knew nothing about sex, certainly made no choices at that age, but it was there, period. Tried being striaght as I could be, knew I could be bi, but married (warned my future wife...she was so damend gorgeous, she stopped traffic..was a Ms. Ilinois), and loved her deeply. Had two wonderful sons, but met Mr. Right and the wrong time...had no control over it, played a dual life for 4 years, hated it when my wife suggested that for all concerned, it would be better if I lived with him, but stayed very close for the boys. My lover (he brought me out) and I stayed together for 16 years, raised my two sons 4 days a week, wife had the 3...it was a great arrangement. We parented as a united front, talked every day, my lover and she were great friends. I do regret that I couldn't be straight any longer, for I do still love my wife greatly...ex wife, that is. But, my life has be very exciting, to say the least. NO , in looking back, I was never straight. I just didn't know it until the love of my life walked into my life...I could n't live without him..so I thought, at any rate. Ain't love grand?

Answer 8

I have always been fab. Anyway, I know that i disliked boys from a young age, and prefered hitting them to kissing them. when I was about 14/15 family and friends were confused to why i never bought a guy home- so i started to see this guy, for whom i become pregnant and had to form a relationship with. but i remained seeing women and it was to the best thing i have done with my life. I tried to hide who i was but it just made me miserable. i think you always know if you are gay or not.

Answer 9

I think what confuses the straight community is those who do not want to accept themselves. Many homosexuals develop straight lives so that they can pass as normal. It is only with maturity they realize normal is subjective and individualistic. Those people then come out after years of living straight and suddenly people think they just choose to be homosexual. But they are really just choosing to live the truth and not live a lie. I know this because this is where I am now I knew when I was 5or 6 that I was different but at the age of 9 I was sexually abused and I blamed my desires for men on that for 29 years here at 40 I have accepted that the sexual abuse although awful and traumatic had nothing to do with my desire for men that is the ex-gay lie that rape of a child can turn him homosexual. I tired to accept that lie for years clinging to it like a lifeline. I got therapy for it a few years ago and realized I was denying a big part of myself and have been for years all because I wanted to blame my abusers for my being this way. My being this way is not my rapists fault those guys are only to blame for my 29 years of denial and they are not the only ones to blame for that the society at large the religious nuts who want us to live a lie and the ex-gay liars are also to blame. Reparative therapy is a lie, trust me on that. All they do is screw a person up and lead them to believe that it is better to lie to yourself and everyone around you because God prefers a lie to your true self.
After I stopped blaming everyone else for how God made me and started looking at what God wants from me I have been a lot happier. God commands us to love one another and accept him as Lord of our life. He would not make us the person he has if there was not a purpose in it. I think the purpose for homosexuality is as a test to the religious community about judgment and acceptance of Gods children. So far they have failed miserably.

Answer 10

No. We were born and grew to realise we were straight, gay, les or bi. Life is a voyage of self-discovery. Counter to what paedophiles might think, we are not sexual beings as soon as we are out of the womb. All that we are saying is that our sexual orientation was determined in the womb - and is not down to having an absentee father and an over-protective mother...