When a husband and wife both work, should the man pay more of the bills then the woman. Or should she pay most

Question

My husband and I both work, but I seem to pay most of the bills and he keeps most of his money and I end up being broke. He blows his money and doesn't give me much of it to pay on the bills. I think it is only fair that we equally pay on what we owe.

Answer 1

50 % of both your paychecks.should go in a bank account.for the bills.60 % if you own your own home.75 % if car payments .and insurance are paid out of the house hold money.that should give both extra money,and the bills paid.

Answer 2

Coming from a woman that was in the same situation. I just had to sit my husband down and explained to him that I did not appreciate his selfishness and him not paying half and half on all the bills. In order to have a strong relationship, we have to give 50/50 on everything. It's not fair for you to pay the majority of the bills while he goes and blow his money and then he wants to know where all your money has gone when he needs something. Believe me girl...I can go on and on, due to the fact that I have been in the same situation. You just basically have to tell him how all this is making you feel.

Answer 3

First of all ...If you are married the money is both yours and his....but if you insist on splitting the bills then do it 50/50....I live with my fiance and have 3 children from a previous relationship and a newborn...our bills go as follows...I pay daycare for my youngest child....my car payment.....the car insurance ...and the electric bill...the cell phone bill and any other utility bills...he covers the rent...his car...(BTW we both have new cars)...his student loans.....credit cards....and buys the food for the house....we are in a home of 6 so the bills total to be quite expensive but we have extra because he has a PT job and we are able to save a significant amount...you need to work on finances with him...that way u still h ave extra money.

Answer 4

Your first problem is not that you pay most of the bills. You both are acting like roommates. Why do you not have one account? I don't understand why people marry some one they don't trust. Not trusting each other is why you don't have the same account in the first place. If I were you I would say to your husband. We are going to change things here. For now on we are going to have the same account or the bills just wont get paid.

Answer 5

What are your incomes (relatively)? My husband and I always discuss our income and expenses as "ours" regardless of what we had coming into the marriage and what we've purchased since then. It goes in one account, we pay the bills, and make joint decisions on how to spend/save the remainder. This alleviates the finger pointing.

If you are more comfortable with making a clear divide, consider each of your incomes. If they are relatively the same, then your payments (and spending habits) should also be the same. But if let's say, your income is 60% of the total, then you should also be responsible for 60% of the expenses.

And don't listen to these people that tell you to just stop paying your bills or lie to your husband to "teach him a lesson". Your married. It sounds to me like you should discuss this with your husband first. Let him know that you feel that you aren't able to enjoy the fruits of your labor. I'm sure the two of you can come to an agreement that works best for both of you. Good luck!

Answer 6

you guys need to balance your bills to be equal,

I usually spend more then my wife on junk, but very little so it is kind of a guy thing however; sounds like he is out of line as you can't enjoy the fruits of YOUR labor.

wait... I got it..... see if you can have an automatic deduction into a checking account, so your bring home is less, also... try puting away $40. per pay period into U.S. Savings bond for like $200. worth, (most large co. will have this program in place) and every 5th pay period you will get a $200. bond, let it sit for the required 6 months and then as needed that money will be available to you at a modest intrest increase. That is what I started doing, I have bonds out there for 3 years now and still growing.. I need some play money I will cash a $200. bond,

There is a power play going on here, he wins, you loose. Don't let him know, you know, just get those deductions coming out to a personall account and just say that cost of living is going up and can he help cover some of this stuff.... then nail him in the bed.... and he will be oblivious to anything going on....

Answer 7

These days its fair and acceptable that both spouses pay for the bill. But in most marriages I see that the man pays more just because of his personality. He's alittle more controlling and is in the bring home the bacon mode. This guy might be a little to reliant on you. Why don't you try to have him pay a bill or two, like the cable bill because you have to save your money for uh.. something. That way maybe he'll realize its not your responsibility rather that its something you two share

Answer 8

Everything should be still 50-50 reason why neither party want to go broke paying bills. Everyone loves to have some x-tra spending money why should one party have a pocket of x-tra cash and the other party look stupid broke

Answer 9

Since men typically make moremoney ( don't know if this is the case in your situation) they should pay more. the two of you should review your income, whoever makes the most should pay the most...or assign a bill for each of you...you pay lights, buy groceries...he pays rent and phone...etc...either way, neither of you should be suffering from being broke when the both of you can pay bills

Answer 10

In our relationship, one of us carries the checkbook and pays all the bills. Both checks go into the checkbook and the person pays the bills first before the extra is spent. You are getting the short end of the stick in your relationship. Let him pay the bills one month and see how he likes it.