He loves her but not like he loves me. but he cant leave her. I dont know what to do. we both know he should but he cant. Afraid of his parents and all the other ppl involved. knew him from 2004, was in love then but too afraid. now it appears to be too late..please help me.............
2006-08-10 20:41:37 · 23 answers · asked by SnowPrincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are destined to be together, you will be one day. But love also needs its sacrifices.It doesn' t mean love is no longer there if you're not together.
If he puts his family on top of you, it doesn't necessarily mean you don't mean anything to him. It's just that he had known them all his life and it's only the right thing to do to make them happy.
If you really love him and he's not willing to give his family up for you, then show him that you really love him by letting him go. Love will always find its way back.
2006-08-10 20:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Dina_Effiana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every decision you make must run it's course. 2 years ago you were afraid to act on your emotions. Now he has made a decision based on whatever has happened in his life during that time. This situation is really not for you to decide. You will love him whether he gets married or not. It is HIS decision to do so or not, you can not make that decision for him. If he decides to get married for whatever reason. You must accept that and move on. If the marriage works out so be it. But don't you be the one to end it. Stay out of his way, let him know you love him, but tell him to make the decision to get married or not.
2006-08-10 20:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Doc G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to break up an engagement than to break up a marriage. If he really loves you, he will have to stand up and be a real man and face the truth. You should make no further attempts to accept or to make any excuses for him putting all of these other people ahead of you. If he really loves you he will NOT marry her. If he loves you, he will voice his true feelings, get out of the engagement and MARRY YOU!! NOTHING can get in his way. I promise you. If he marries someone he told you he does not love, you need to forget him and find someone who is not afraid to speak the truth about his feelings and live in agreement with the truth.
2006-08-10 20:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was really going to commit to you, he would leave her. He needs to concern himself with what is best for him. The family would come around, eventually. If he isn't willing to follow through on having a relationship with you and not marrying her, you need to dump the chump. For one, you would be encouraging him to have an affair with you. That is morally wrong. Even if he doesn't choose to take his marriage vows seriously, you should.
One thing you should keep in mind is that, if he is willing to cheat on her this entire time he's been engaged, and if it were to continue after his marriage, what on earth makes you think the boy could be loyal to you? He wouldn't be.
If he chooses to marry his fiancee, then you need to wish them the best of luck and walk away. It won't be easy, as I'm sure you really care about him, but you need to do what is right. You should have never continued this relationship as long as you have. When he got engaged, you should have ended your half of this love-triangle. Since you haven't you need to end it before the wedding. It is just wrong to continue this.
2006-08-10 20:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lanie Janie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was truly in love with u, then wouldn't he do anything for u? Also, why did he propose to the other girl in the first place? Finally, 2 years of knowing this guy is not that long. If he's cheating on her by loving u, he could cheat on u. Sorry, but u gotta move on.
2006-08-10 20:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by bebeeangeldust 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a 9 on the naive scale. Give me a break. "he loves me more but he won't leave her and is going to marry her". Sounds magical.
Is she raping him or something or is he being kidnapped to get married? Of course he wants her more but he's keeping the doors open to have you for dessert.
You need to let it go. You deserve better. This is an affair waiting to happen and he will use you if you dont' wise up.
2006-08-10 21:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let him go because he really does not love you or not enough to marry you.Instead he is marring someone else.You are just someone on the side for him.SORRY to tell you this.But if someone truly LOVES person they would not make any excess to be with that person.Will you two still keep seeing each other when he is marry to the other woman hes WIFE???
Do not let him walk all over you like that anymore.Take it from me.
All the BEST*_*
2006-08-10 21:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him alone you are probably ganna miss that up good luck with the guy you mess around with and now is getting married but anyways that's messed up you need to stop all contact but not all of a sudden!!! its hard but if you says he loves you more than her he wont get married he'll be back if not your just been used!!! Good luck
2006-08-10 20:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wish I can give you a really good answear. All I can say is tell what's in your heart . Dont care about what other pepole might say or think . Be true to your heart . And you can never go wrong . I hope that everything will work out for you .
2006-08-10 20:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and him are in the wrong hun. the "right" thing to do would be to tell the fiance so she doesn't end up marrying a guy who she thinks is faithful to her. Also, why would you want to be with a guy who is lying to you like that? If he loved you more, he would MARRY YOU. It's NOT that complicated. Guys just want sex, this guy is an asshole and playing you. Dump his *** and ruin his life.
2006-08-10 20:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Christine4tw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋